Daily Chat Wednesday 11th November - we will remember them

sammy115

Evening Bunster...you feelin any better....

Snaggles

Ohh no Beanie, are you okay hun?

How're you feeling Bunny?

Stu is getting later and later arriving to see the kids. Taking the p*ss. He used to be here at 5.30pm. Then it got moved to 6pm because of work. Now it's getting more like 6.30pm, again because of work.

Wish there was something I could do. The kids just sit around waiting for him, getting crabbier and crabbier, then he comes in all miserable and tired, eats his tea, then dumps them in bed and goes home as soon after 8pm as possible.

Feel like punching him.

Snaggles

Grrrr :mad: I hate that man so much. Apparently it's my fault he's late, he has to do huge amounts of overtime to afford to live because I threw him out.

sammy115

Here is my constructive advice....punch him..

This is said after OH has just phoned me to tell me he is going to meet his friend on Friday night for a drink..to be fair its the friend who mended my laptop so he owes him a favour, but if I did that he would go loopy!

Bunnyinthelights

Interesting question Sammy....
I will try an honest answer-I do feel 'physically' better but not 'mentally'. I am finding work so difficult at the minute, just when I thought it was getting better, lovely manager says she's leaving and bully manager's job has fallen through and she is back in our office intermittenly-so never know when she'll show up but trust me, she does. NEW manager is well, a numpty. So far she has asked current (nice) manager about my abilities at work and managed to convey that she thinks I am useless. She sends endless emails about 'not wandering' and 'make sure you wash up your dishes' etc etc and even told off a guy in my office for his 'unslightly' facial hair (and trust me, he is a good looking lad, treny, well groomed and was by NO MEANS unruly!) She never just 'talks' to us and frankly, the atmosphere at work is unbearable. I am ready to walk out (again, I seem to making a habit of walking out of jobs) but realise this would be foolhardy so I won't. However, I know I am close to breaking down. (work wise) I hate it. I try not to moan to much and get down about it but it's been a constant battle to remain upbeat about it and I feel absolutely cream crackered by it all. Just bone weary and fed up and well, like crying. I have already told my (lovely soon to be leaving manager) that I will walk olut if the bring bully lady back full time. I will NOT put up with that. I just wish my other job would come through!!!!!!!!!

I am well enough to return to work but feel ill everytime I think about having to show my face in the office. It's like I know everyone is watching me, willing me to f*ck up and judging my every move. I have always taken pride in ANY job I have done, and did well at them whereas here I feel like a stupid numpty.

I wish I could just get a job back doing what I used to do and at least know I am GOOD at it.

Pooky

SuzySu wrote: »

Pooky - can I ask were you an existing Sky customer who upgraded, or new to Sky?

Exisiting customer, we made a complaint last month when they moved our broadband tarrif without explaining it so they gave us Sky+ box and installation for free, upgrade on the BB package for 6 months and half price viewing package for 6 months......fair play to them.

Snaggs - It got like that with my ex, in the end I just said "here by 6 or don't bother".....he didn't bother.

Beanie - Hope you're ok.

Buns - Hope you're feeling better.

I love sewing.....but only when it's for me, I really resent it when other people want stuff doing....even when they pay.

Snaggles

Pooky, funnily enough I said the same....and he said 'Well I wont come then'.

I am being unreasonable as usual. How dare I want a couple of hours off. How dare the kids want to spend a couple of hours with him. How dare we come between him, his job, his tea and his bed.

:mad:


Am off out for a bit. Think I might be late back, just for the hell of it. Except I wont, because I'm not that petty.

Bunnyinthelights

Sammy-may I be frank?
It winds me up your hubby doing that-how many times have you passed on an invitation to do something and not done it because him inside wouldnt want you to since you get so little time together! Then he does it instead? Stinks that does. Stinks of the ol double standard.

sammy115

Bunny, after I lost the job i loved I drifted from job to job, endlessly doubting my abilities and even my own faith in myself....
I have EVERY sympathy and at the risk of sound subversive I think you have very good reason to put a claim in for constructive dismissal or at least a complaint about the behaviour of this/these women.

However I know from bitter experience that that is not an easy route to take. Work takes up a very very big part of our lives and you need to be happy when you go to work otherwise you will end up emotionally destroyed.

Personally I would look for other options. If it was me I would probably get a job in a supermarket in the interim between this job and the other. I am not trying to suggest you walk out but I have been in your situation and its not easy and its not pleasant...:grouphug:

Bunnyinthelights

Snags-i am sorry you are going thru this. I know I said this before but when families spolit up, I really cannot understand why parents think it's ok to use the kids as pawns in their petty battles. XOH is only hurting the kids and his relationship with them, makes me so cross.

Could you get Ryan to say something to him, explain how her feels from HIS point of view? then XOH will realise its not just YOU he is affecting.