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Lycaeus

Grrrr we put in an offer for a house around a month ago. It was accepted within 30mins and both parties agreed to a quick sale. Because the house was on for such a fantastic price, we asked the EA why it hadnt sold already. We were told the the husband didnt really want to sell it but had no choice due to bad finances, divorce and no job..

We know that this couple are going through a very nasty divorce, hence the house sale. The wife has moved out but the husband is still in the house but will be moving to rented.

My hubby and I have got the mortgage sorted, paid for the survey (Should have been done this Wed) and filled out the Sol paper work. I went over to the EA 3 days ago to find out where the fixtures and fitting list is. Turns out the hubby has gone into hiding:mad: He wont answer any calls and is refusing to answer the door when the EA goes around to his house to ask him to sign it off (his wife filled it in). The ex wife has even got to the point of suggesting a forged signature :eek: Obviously her sol advised her against this and we certainly dont want that!

Also when i was at the EA, they were talking about the fact he is sulking over how much money he may be getting from his divorce and may be dragging his heals to give himself time to sell stuff from the house!! OK its his stuff he can do what he wants with it, but we need to get on with this bloody sale! The divorce and his money woes are not our problem..

Im also worried that he may be doing this to drag the sale out as he doesnt want to sell and if no-one is able to contact him, has the survey been done????

Am i completely over reacting here, or are my worries justified??? We really need this sale to go through ASAP to avoid stamp duty..

welshy_2002

How would you feel if it were you? You'd do exactly the same thing right? If he's going through a nasty divorce, the last thing he's going to want to do is fill in the paper work which will eventually kick him out of his own house.

Your getting a fantastic prince as you say; so the tradeoff is mucho hastle....

LandyAndy

Without his full co-operation very soon I don't think you have much chance of beating the SDLT deadline and he could drag this out for a considerable time.

Unfortunately it is entirely out of your hands.

LandyAndy

welshy_2002 wrote: »

How would you feel if it were you? You'd do exactly the same thing right? If he's going through a nasty divorce, the last thing he's going to want to do is fill in the paper work which will eventually kick him out of his own house.

Your getting a fantastic prince as you say; so the tradeoff is mucho hastle....

Now that is a bonus.;)

Lycaeus

welshy_2002 wrote: »

How would you feel if it were you? You'd do exactly the same thing right? If he's going through a nasty divorce, the last thing he's going to want to do is fill in the paper work which will eventually kick him out of his own house.

Your getting a fantastic prince as you say; so the tradeoff is mucho hastle....

Sorry but i disagree. He's made a decision to sell and has entered an oral agreement to do so. He has, wether with a forced hand or not, put the house up to sell and accepted the offer. HIS divorce is just that, its HIS. Why should it be our concern?? I dont care about his dirty laundry. We are supposed to be buying a house.

Thanks Landy - i take it there is no way i can speed things up then, even via his wife??

Fire_Fox

Perhaps he is suffering with clinical depression.

Bufger

Yes its your sale he's making hard but at the end of the day its still his house until you buy it. Its obvious he doesnt want to sell. The ex is probably being harsh about it, you're being harsh about it and im better he has absolutely no support at all.

I know you're not concerned about his welfare at all but as its all tied into this you need to at least acknowledge it.

Maybe the divorce wasnt his fault, maybe the lost job wasnt his fault. Maybe this guy just wants to end it all but nobody is listening because all they want is to buy a damn house.

Some human eh

sss555s

Lycaeus wrote: »

Sorry but i disagree. He's made a decision to sell and has entered an oral agreement to do so. He has, wether with a forced hand or not, put the house up to sell and accepted the offer. HIS divorce is just that, its HIS. Why should it be our concern?? I dont care about his dirty laundry. We are supposed to be buying a house.

Thanks Landy - i take it there is no way i can speed things up then, even via his wife??

Perhaps he is one of those MeMeMe type of people and not considering your dilema :rolleyes:

It's a complicated situation which is also the situation why it is up for a quick sale so i guess you get nowt for nowt.

I'm sure you could still pull out and go for another property if the hassle is too much and i guess speeding things up with his wife is the last thing he wants to hear

welshy_2002

Lycaeus wrote: »

Sorry but i disagree. He's made a decision to sell and has entered an oral agreement to do so. He has, wether with a forced hand or not, put the house up to sell and accepted the offer. HIS divorce is just that, its HIS. Why should it be our concern?? I dont care about his dirty laundry. We are supposed to be buying a house.

It's not your concern at all - but it affects you does it not? Saying it's his business is kind of burying your head in the sand. I'm not taking sides here btw. I agree he should sort it out and when he's shot of the whole mess, he will probably feel better. All I'm saying is entering into a situation where the price is fantastically low is not going to mean plain sailing is it?

welshy_2002

Your getting a fantastic prince as you say; so the tradeoff is mucho hastle....

LandyAndy wrote: »

Now that is a bonus.;)

:rotfl:

Princess pls!

claireac

I had this problem with my xh when we got divorced. There's not a lot you can do, but if the house is being sold as part of the divorce settlement then the wife/ex-wife can go back to the courts and it can be forced through. Which is exactly what I had to do!! It takes time though........