Leaving Him !

shazronnie

Am I entitled to anything if I leave my husband?
Married for 7 yrs, together for 10, my husband had already paid the mortgage off before I met him.
I have been in full time employment all my life and always contributed to household bills and I pay for the weekly shop.
We are comfortably off money wise so just use our own bank accounts. We do have a joint account but after so long he puts the money in his kids accounts where ''we'' cant get it out.
My car was paid for by him though the log book is in my name. I read a link earlier indicating he could claim the car back.
Also his dad died and left a property to him which we are now renting out but have not yet touched any of the income..
The marriage is over.
He says the only thing i will be leaving with would be my wooden box (coffin)

Anyy advice please?

mrcow

You need to get yourself a solicitor asap.

onetomany

get legal advice hun sorry i couldnt help more hopefuly someone with more knowlege will be along soon , good luck

gizmo111

Yes you would be entitled to around 50% of joint assets. www.ondivorce.co.uk is a good resource.

karen24_2

I'm no expert but I'd say as you're married you would be entitled to something I'm sure of that, not sure about the money squirreled away in the kids accounts though. I'm divorcing my husband at the moment, he didn't pay a penny towards anything but he has a claim over the house and my pension, so I'd advise you get a solicitor. I reckon you could probably also claim for some sort of financial support from him too. He sounds like a pig, hope you get what you're entitled to.

McKneff

Hello there and welcome.

Empty the joint account, put it in your account, so that you have enough for a deposit on a flat, gather any valuables that you own, and ride into the sunset with the car, anybody who threatens you like that doesnt deserve any consideration.

Then file for divorce. Then take him to the cleaners

shazronnie

Thanks for your comments, I dare not attempt to leave until i have facts(and somewhere to go)and the knowledge that i will be secure until I get on my feet.
Im scared that I came with nothing and will leave with nothing...... after contributing for 10 yrs.

karen24_2

there's no way you would leave with nothing. Get a solicitor before you leave to get some advice, let us know how you get on.

cheepskate_2

Why would you get any profit from the house , you didnt pay for it. You may have paid for bills but even in rented you would still have needed to do this.
The property left to him is his, if in the future your family left you property would you share it with him.
Why do men get screwed so much and why do people instantly want other women to do this when they split.

karen24_2

cheepskate wrote: »

Why would you get any profit from the house , you didnt pay for it. You may have paid for bills but even in rented you would still have needed to do this.
The property left to him is his, if in the future your family left you property would you share it with him.
Why do men get screwed so much and why do people instantly want other women to do this when they split.

I would say the same to a man in the same position. It happens to women too, I paid for my house and pension yet my husband can get half of it. I may be wrong but from what I understand when you marry you are effectively giving them half of everything, something I recently discovered. I said he sounded like a pig as he said she would only leave in a box, not nice.

Errata

gizmo111 wrote: »

Yes you would be entitled to around 50% of joint assets. www.ondivorce.co.uk is a good resource.

This isn't quite correct. The starting point is 50/50 and the financial settlement is either negotiated by both parties, or if they cannot reach an agreement the divorce court judge decides for them.

OP - do seek legal advice.