Wednesday 4th November Daily Chat - Everyone join in!!!

sammy115

spud30 wrote: »

Did you get any PJs Sammy? I cant wait for mine to arrive :T

Not yet, I have chosen them and will pick them up at the weekend...:T

bookseller1980 wrote: »

That made me choke Sammy - you didn't did you?
I had a lovely conversation with my ex at the funeral.

I did Bookie, I did laugh to myself......

talking of ex's my DD1 and I have just been discussing a christening. She is put off having one because she is worried about having my ex OH and my OH in the same room, her dad and her other dad...she calls them both dad.

I could cope with it and would behave but my OH would most definitely not....:mad:

bookseller1980

Snaggles wrote: »

Do you feel okay about seeing him and talking to him Bookie?

We seem to be comfortable with each other - especially when his wife isn't there (she hates to see us together and he is constantly watching her behaviour!). We stood chatting for ages much to the amazement of others including DDs. Quite like old times.

sammy115

I am not sure I have had a face to face conversation with my ex OH since the day we split up....

spud30

sammy115 wrote: »

Not yet, I have chosen them and will pick them up at the weekend...:T



I did Bookie, I did laugh to myself......

talking of ex's my DD1 and I have just been discussing a christening. She is put off having one because she is worried about having my ex OH and my OH in the same room, her dad and her other dad...she calls them both dad.

I could cope with it and would behave but my OH would most definitely not....:mad:

Which PJs have you chosen?

Surely DH wouldnt spoil Nat and Ryans special day, would he?

sammy115

spud30 wrote: »

Which PJs have you chosen?

Surely DH wouldnt spoil Nat and Ryans special day, would he?

some leopard print ones (getting a pattern here are you?) and some spotty ones....

Would OH spoil Nat and Ryans day.....yes he would! I have been with John since Nats was tiny and she calls him Dad...they all do. He is to all intents and purposes their dad....Nats feels the same way....but she also still has a relationship with her 'real' dad.

You have to bear in mind this is the man who kicked me in the ribs when I was pregnant with Nats and I almost lost her....my OH knows this and just feels very protective.

I also know how destructive it can be if you shut out the ex OH from the life of your children...it has the opposite effect.

My OH would not only ruin the day but would make the build up to it and the aftermath unbearable too.

Nats has always said if she gets married I will be giving her away:j

bookseller1980

We agreed years ago that we have to be civilised for the girls' sakes and that there would always be occasions where we would have to meet. We have got through a graduation and a wedding that way plus a few other times. It is slightly odd in some ways as his family tend to ignore him and support me. At DD1's wedding he did actually ask me if I was ok.
Today he did the same, asked about the shop and we had a good chat and a joke. Sigh.

It must be hard for your OH Sammy but he would be the one you had chosen and should rejoice in that. I don't know all the story though.

jinky67

spud30 wrote: »

Just watching Mr Buble standing in for Paul O Grady. He's a bit tasty isnt he

Hands off he'smine:mad::T:D

bookseller1980

Sorry Sammy cross-posted.
Can see the problem.

Ames

Sammy, my mum's the same as your ex. It's my sister's graduation next week and mum's making a big deal about not being prepared to speak to dad, let alone sit with him. It's a nightmare for sister, mum's completely ruining an important day for her.

sammy115

Ames, its what my mum did with my dad....it was a nightmare growing up and I was determined when me and OH split up we would be civil...I didn't count on my OH being ever so possessive.....

But he comes from a very strong family with no divorces...its hard to get his head round.