Bereavment for extended family??

esio_trot

I'm fairly sure that when my gran died last year, my OH had to take annual leave if he wanted to support me at the funeral (which he did and his employers were fine with). If your GF explains to her employer that she wants to take annual leave for a funeral, they may be more lenient with letting her take it.

snapping_crocodile

Myself and my partner are very lucky with our employers. I work for the NHS, and for all their faults in not being as 'family flexible' as they claim, they are very good in terms of bereavement. Two years ago my nan passed away and i got 2 days compassionate leave. Then in June this year my dad passed away and i got a weeks compassionate leave, then anything else afterwards had to be sickness. My OH's employers are fab too, he was allowed 2 days when my nan dies, and because my dad lived 280 miles away, and i am his next of kin, we were down there for 2 weeks sorting out his house (rented) and organising the funeral. My OH's employers told him to take all the time he needed to be with me and they would sort it out when he got back, no questions asked, and i don't think i could have got through it without him being there. Luckily though he works flexi so he could juggle it quite easily.

However there is no legal requirement for them to give you compassionate leave. One of my best friends died quite suddenly last year, and i had to take a days annual leave to go to the funeral becasue he was not a blood relation. It just depends on how generous your employer is

Miss-Moneypenny_7

our company does not have a standard amount of compassionate leave, they sort of use their discretion at the time (in other words make it up as they go along) but they do restrict it to immediate family i.e spouse/dependants/parents/siblings so we have to take annual leave for grandparents or any other relatives/friends.

my mum was stabbed two years ago and spent a week in intensive care, i had to use annual leave for the entire week to be able to sit by her side. luckily she pulled through but at the time i was so angry with my bosses because had i not had any annual leave left i would have had to take it unpaid and when you think you mum is about to die you don't really need the added stress. They lost out in the end because from that point on I stopped all the extra upaid hours and taking work home with me that they had been used to for the previous 4 years.

gill_81uk

I work in retail and my company offers up to 3 days for immediate family, this is stipulated as parent, sibling or child but there is some leeway for other close family members. Anything over this would be need to be sick.

I would fully expect them to allow me to change my day off in the circumstances that are mentioned to attend an inlaws funeral but would definitely not expect to be paid for it. As others have said - you can go on forever with it and it would cost the company a lot of money, which they just dont have in present circumstances.

Errata

NAR wrote: »

Totally not. It is down to your contract of employment, not law.
Granmother, not directly related, why should she get allowed any leave? In theory how many bf's grannys could she look compassionate leave for?

How many ? Usually depends on how well England are doing in the World Cup

NAR

timberflake wrote: »

Granted, but did you miss the part where it says we live together.

Yes I suppose that does put a different slant on things. But it still will be at the discretion of her employer if he grants her paid leave.

Bogof_Babe

gill_81uk wrote: »

I work in retail and my company offers up to 3 days for immediate family, this is stipulated as parent, sibling or child but there is some leeway for other close family members. Anything over this would be need to be sick.

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gill_81uk

Sorry, I meant if you need more than 3 days off then you would need to phone in sick and get a doctors note for more than a week

Bogof_Babe

gill_81uk wrote: »

Sorry, I meant if you need more than 3 days off then you would need to phone in sick and get a doctors note for more than a week

How would you get a doctor's note saying you are sick if you aren't?

esio_trot

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

How would you get a doctor's note saying you are sick if you aren't?

Never been signed off after a bereavement before but from the experience of colleagues, I believe it would be assessed as stress following bereavement or similar. if your GP believes that you will cope better mentally and physically with your loss, they would give you a sick line.