Sending out invites early, but not sure what to do about gift list?

kr15snw

We've decided not to bother with save the date cards and am just going to send the invites out early (getting married on a friday, in the summer holidays and on a bank holiday weekend. Thought they would appreciate the warning!).

The wedding is in August and we're going to send the invites out in January.

We've already looked at gift lists and am currently thinking of going with one of the ones were people can buy us gifts towards our honeymoon. But would it be silly to open this as early as January?

I always assumed you opened your gift lists about 2 months before the wedding, but then what do we put in the invites?

Hmmm...

aimee21j

I think August may be a little early- people won't be able to commit to their rsvp. We sent out save the dates around October for August wedding and invites in June. I think the shop you take the gift list out open the gift list a few months in advance- check with them.

ncv2

I would not send the invites out that early. Do a STD email instead.
6-8 weeks before the wedding is best for invites. People are going to lose them or forget and you will have to call everyone to see if they are actually coming. In the end it's going to create a lot of stress and time chasing people down for you.

ncv2

PS you are not supposed to put gift list information in the invites, never mention gifts of any kind in fact.

shellsuit

ncv2 wrote: »

PS you are not supposed to put gift list information in the invites, never mention gifts of any kind in fact.

You can do what you want, it's just not classed as good etiquette to put gift info with the invites.

shellsuit

I'm sending save the dates out in Dec or Jan for October wedding, then the invites are going out in July (12 weeks before wedding)

Tigerlilley1980

Hi there, we sent our invites out early as the wedding is so close to Christmas and we didn't want to risk people not being able to come. We knew we were going to have the list at Debenhams so registered with them. My store was really good and when I went in and explained about the invites they gave me the little cards to put in the invites early aswell even though we hadn't done the list. As it happens we decided not to put the cards in the invites as we felt a bit cheeky so instead we put the gift list number on our wedding website and for those that don't use the internet our Mums and Bridesmaids have been in charge of telling people where the list is at. It's working really well and we have quite a few gifts bought already and there is still 7 weeks until the wedding, Tiger xx

Mme.Hibou

We're getting married 6 days before Christmas and our invites went out last week, I think 8 months is a bit premature.

chelbel1981

shellsuit wrote: »

I'm sending save the dates out in Dec or Jan for October wedding, then the invites are going out in July (12 weeks before wedding)

Snap! We are thinking of putting them in with the Christmas cards because that will save on extra money for stamps :money:

Lydia82 wrote: »

We're getting married 6 days before Christmas and our invites went out last week, I think 8 months is a bit premature.

Save the dates with Christmas cards and our invites are going out June/July for 09.10.10

chatnoir

Getting wed september next year but cos we are going abroad we sent our invites two weeks ago. We will just register nearer the time and my mum/mil2b will have details of the list number etc etc

dizziblonde

I sent invites out early - with the state of the postal service since then it appears to have been the safer plan (our post office seems to be going for a renewing your neighbourlyness campaign by shoving everyone's post in the wrong doors so we've got to sort it out ourselves at present!) - we're not doing a gift list though, my personal dislike for them being the reason.

As for "too early" or "too late"...I think save the dates are kind of another hook the wedding industry has to save money, we knew the date, place and time - so while I had free time during the summer holidays I got them made and got them out with a nice long RSVP time on them. Otherwise we'd have been sending things out to arrive along a similar time to the Xmas post when there's tonnes of stuff going through your letterbox and card-sized stuff is more likely to get lost then. Plus leaving nice clean blank invitations lying around this house is just an... um... well invitation... for my dearly beloved to spill something on the entire pile, or the cat to fall asleep on them!