Toilet Training going backwards!

Mado

HEEELLLPPPP!!!!


My 3 year old (nearly 4) was completely toilet trained during the day and near enough night time around Xmas.
Since then , the nights have been constantly wet (bak to pull-ups) and reecntly he started having frequent accidents during the day. He just doesn't care at all.
I can't think of any event that would have triggered this behaviour.

Just about to go down the bribery route. Any other ideas?

Jay-Jay_4

I sympathise, I had the same problem and my daughter also went backwards when she was three and was six and a bit before she was dry at night again, she still has wet knicks during the day and is almost 7.

It was (and still is) one of the most frustrating things I've gone through with her. The night time dryness came about when after years of visits to health visitors, school nurses and GPs, we were referred to a consultant who simply told her it would be better if she didn't wee in bed. She stopped that night :rolleyes: :mad: :cool:

There are a couple of threads about potty training that turned into discussions on nightime eneuresis but the problems were mainly older children. The problem that faces you is that no one will take you seriously until your son is at least 7 yrs old because it's considered normal up until that age. :cool:

hobo28

Hi Maddo.

If nothing has changed then the best thing to do is probably try your best not to draw attention to it as it could be that he is after.

Try giving him very little to drink at dinnertime and see how it goes.

Do you think he's not realising he needs it or just too lazy to go to the toilet? What I used to do for my youngest two was to wake them up before I went to bed and put them on the toilet.

You could try a star chart for nights he doesn't wee.

My son is nearly 5 and he still occasionally has accidents. My Step-daughter is 4 and is 99% dry but had 1 accident this week. So it does still happen and boys are definately harder as you rightly say, they don't care if they are wet!

CGG

I sympathise too.
I found toilet training the hardest job of all with my son. He wasn't interested and I felt a failure. I seemed to get one step forward and suddenly take two steps back. He turned 4 in the May and was still in pull-ups when the Nursery closed for the summer hols.
I feared he would still be in them when he started school in the September.
I was so thankful when something finally 'clicked' within him, and he started school in pants and (touch-wood) has been okay since.
Of course, there have been odd accidents, but I learnt thats kids for you.

culpepper

Have you tried taking him to the loo when you go to bed? Get him up out of his bed and take him there and if need be,sit him on the loo and wait. He mightn't like it but he wont have to do it once he can stay dry at night so its an incentive.
I think for boys it is less uncomfortable than for girls. Could you perhaps verbally reward for the times he goes rather than treats if he does? Really praise him when he gets to the loo and say stuff about how grown up he is because he remembered to get there in time.

chewy62

:j hi!@ I sympathise too as about a month ago, my toilet traines 3.5 year old son started pooing and weeing on the carpet! I tried the ignoring thing, I tried the shouting thing, and nothing worked. It lasted about 2 months, and I decided to try a sticker chart up in the toilet. I bought him a Star Wars spaceship thing, and I showed him what he would get if he did everything on the toilet for a week. It worked like a dream! he still has the odd spill in his pants, just i think because he's too busy playing to go to the loo.:rolleyes:
Someone else gave me advice on here and aid that when we potty train them, we get all excited and make such a big deal, and then they are just left to do it and we take it for granted.So I think a lot of claps and excitement are perhaps in order, good luck!:j

funky-footprints

i would wait for him to tell you about night times to be honest, my 3 1/2 year old daughter is no way near ready, she took an age to train to go in knickers by the day, my son now 5 was dry by 2 1/2 and was also a dream to toilet train by day, each child is completely different.

there are quite a few 5 years in my sons class at school still in pull ups. is it realy an issue ? I think not, i would rather wait until they go dry for a couple of nights and then go nappy free than spending endless nights of bed changing.

i dont think it is anything to do with thier behaviour, maybe he just wasnt ready ...... my daughter still has accidents, its nothing to do with her behaviour, its just down to being far too busy.

HopeElizzy

I had this with my daughter and to get her back on track we used a sticker chart - I don't know what it is about small children and stickers but it worked. We offered a reward after gaining so many stickers.....usually something small like a comic or a pot of playdoh. We also used this method when she started a phase of getting out of bed after we'd just put her in. If she stayed in bed all night apart from trips to the toilet she had sticker in the morning.
We thought her toilet abilities would be affected when we had another baby but it wasn't until he was mobile so could gain more attention and get toys himself that she regressed. There was also a little of the lazy, not paying attention thing going on as if she gets absorbed in play or TV she only just makes it in time so we hear a little voice saying ooops, I've had an accident!
Hope things improve for you soon.

Mado

Thanks for your advice.
He is my 3rd so I know about accidents and I am not that fussed about the nights. If he doesn't wake up well, he is not quite ready : he sometimes does call in the night for a wee. I have tried a handfull of times to take him to the loo asleep but sometimes he is already wet and it rarelly makes a difference in the morning.
I think what really gets me is that he really doesn't care and will deny having wet himself even when it is very obvious. I don't know wether to get cross or just matter of fact about this, or more like it, I don't know how not to get cross when after a long period of being very good he now can't leave the house without spares and almost always smeels of urine by the end of the day. We have just agreed on a reward scheme, and I hope he takes it in but he is soooooo laid back I am not even sure he cares enough for that!!!!