Who should I get to give me away???

shellylovesshopping

Getting married in June and haven't sorted out who should give me away!

My dad died many years ago but I did not have a close relationship with him as my parents seperated soon after my birth. My mum has a new partner and they have been together 12 years. I call him my dad and he has been more of a father to me than my real dad was.

BUT I also have my brother who I think automatically thinks he's giving me away.

I know if I ask my "dad" my brother will be really upset and vice versa. I did think about getting my 3 year old son to do the honours but he can be a little stubbon monkey and if he didn't want to do it on the day he wouldn't!

Any suggestions would be appreciated!

aimee21j

Can they both give you away? I think it would look lovely but you might have to get the logistics right. Maybe one walking you down the aisle then the other meeting you at the top.

Floss

What about your mum?

SSTEPHANIE

yeah, i think go for both ..............:beer:

Great_Hairdresser

Mum gets my vote too

ncv2

You could walk down by yourself.

rachfriar78

Would suggest both then you dont hurt anyones feelings. I'm getting my 9 nad 7 year old to give me away, my dad isnt coming to the wedding pretty much cos he can be bothered but my boys would do a better job anyways LOL x

Whitewillow_2

my mum gave me away she was fab at it and it kept everyone happy! *so proud of her*

sneezyboots

your son gets my vote. he will appreciate it when he is older. i had a similar dilema (getting married aug 10). never known dad and had uncle and grandad who both probably thought it would be either of them as they played a big part in my upbringing and my mum wanted to do it too but i opted for my little brother (he will be 12). the family have all said they would never have thought of him but that it is definately the best choice.

Baby_in_the_corner

I'm in exactly the same situation - Dad died before I was born, Stepdad been there since I was 5, but also have an older brother who I've always looked up to (and is the image of my Dad). I'm having them both - I figure that it's only fair that I have two people giving me away considering what happened to my real Dad! Both of them are really chuffed, and Mum's over the moon that I asked Stepdad - she cried, of course! Whatever you choose, I hope it makes YOU happy... lots of love x x x

username456

My mum is giving me away, despite my dad still being alive. My mum raised me and if anyone is going to 'give' me to anyone, it's her. If she wouldn't have done it, I've asked my brother and then possibly my bloke's step-dad, because he's lovely - if none of them wanted to, I'd walk down the aisle on my own.

Go with your gut instinct. My dad will be fully-expecting to give me away and I've not told him my mum is yet (I'm a bit of a coward at the moment), but my mum brought me up, not him.

No matter what decision you make some one's nose will be out of joint - it is the way of weddings. Do what you feel's right and maybe give whomever you don't ask an ushering job.