need a rant

tizhimi

H2B should always take the side of the wife to be.

I have no advice whatsoever other than... "and breathe...." Why do you want photo's with someone elses kids? (I think I've missed the point, sorry) If they were my kids I'd want them with me but I think I've got the wrong end of the stick.

pelirocco

Your guests will be very hacked off waiting for you to appear at the reception

SkyKitty

Anmarj-

Please take a deep breath whilst reading these replies it can't be easy to hear that you are kind of coming across as a bit of a bridezilla. But its the truth, and we say it honestly and with love.

I understand that it probably seemed like a lovely idea to take all 4 kids off for an hours photoshoot in the park, I can see how that would be really nice.

However when they're not your kids you really do have to take a back seat, even at your wedding.

In my humble opinion, I agree that maybe taking some time at the venue for the photos with the kids would be a better idea.

But whtever you do, please, please don't do anything rash like not having them as attendants because of it. You clearly love these kids or you wouldn't want the special photos with them in the first place. I'm sure you'll regret it if they're upset at no longer being involved - no matter who actually tells them.

Deep breath honey, deep breath.

beks

SkyKitty wrote: »

Anmarj-

Please take a deep breath whilst reading these replies it can't be easy to hear that you are kind of coming across as a bit of a bridezilla. But its the truth, and we say it honestly and with love.

I understand that it probably seemed like a lovely idea to take all 4 kids off for an hours photoshoot in the park, I can see how that would be really nice.

However when they're not your kids you really do have to take a back seat, even at your wedding.

In my humble opinion, I agree that maybe taking some time at the venue for the photos with the kids would be a better idea.

But whtever you do, please, please don't do anything rash like not having them as attendants because of it. You clearly love these kids or you wouldn't want the special photos with them in the first place. I'm sure you'll regret it if they're upset at no longer being involved - no matter who actually tells them.

Deep breath honey, deep breath.

Good post, I agree!!
OP, I think thay having 4 children on your own would just be too much to cope with on your wedding day. If you and OH want photos on your own, who will watch the children, they couldnt just be left on their own. If you dont want to take anyone else with you and dont want to stay in the venue grounds, can you and OH not got off on your own? (although TBH I would be disappointed if I were a guest and the bride and groom disappeared for that length of time.)
I hope you work something out that you are all happy with.

Morglin

It's easy to get carried away, but the wedding itself is just a celebration for the years that come ahead, and really, not that important.:rolleyes:

It's the marriage that has to be worked at and that will hopefully florish, along with family relationships - the wedding day itself will quickly fade into insignificance and memory as far as the guests are concerned.;)

I had the full Monty the first time round - was more wise by the second time, and only had who we wanted, and NO kids!

Still a lot of stress though lol:rolleyes:

DH wants a blessing - and I have told him that the ONLY way I will do this is to have one on board a ship (perhaps a small cruise), and that I want to just do it by ourselves.

These ceremonies and the way they make those doing them (neurotic, stressed and Bridezilla!) drive me nuts!:eek:

Lin