The best policy the Tories could introduce is a proper married couples allowance

The_White_Horse

Lunary wrote: »

I'm not married but I have a one year old son. I live with my partner, who is my son's father. He works, as he earns the most, I stay at home and take care of my son. This policy you propose would benefit us if I was able to give my unused allowances to my partner. I'm just wondering why it is that I should have to be married in order to qualify. I mean, this is a money saving website, just think of how much money couples can save if they don't get married. Even the cheapest of weddings require a marriage licence, and that is ignoring the fact that the majority of people pay £10k to £15k on their special day.

you could get married to your partner in a registry office for about 50 quid. The point is, one of you or both of you, don't want to commit. that is the long and short of it. this is bad for your child and bad for society. if your child asks, when he is 6 or 7 "why aren't you and daddy married?" is your answer really that you wanted to save money on a party???

Idiophreak

Lunary wrote: »

I'm not married but I have a one year old son. I live with my partner, who is my son's father. He works, as he earns the most, I stay at home and take care of my son. This policy you propose would benefit us if I was able to give my unused allowances to my partner. I'm just wondering why it is that I should have to be married in order to qualify. I mean, this is a money saving website, just think of how much money couples can save if they don't get married. Even the cheapest of weddings require a marriage licence, and that is ignoring the fact that the majority of people pay £10k to £15k on their special day.

Apparently we should pay for living in sin.

I care enough about my partner to want to wait til I can afford to give her the day she's dreamt of, clearly I should pay more tax than a wife-beating adulterer...afterall, only married families are happy families, right?

boyse7en

I've got a couple of kids with my Partner. We're not married, but have been together for 17 years now. I know plenty of married couples who have lasted at lot less time than that.
In fact, I know of two long-term living together couples who then got married and subsequently divorced soon after - proof that marriage breaks up relationships

The_White_Horse

can someone explain the "aka" thing in lemonjelly's post? maybe my pc is missing something off it as i can't see anything about a mass murderer.

if that is the case, probably the usual lefty reaction to sensible comments- that the maker is a racist, or homophobic or whatever else they can muster up. this time a mass murderer.

The_White_Horse

anyone in a long term relationship but is not married should seriously ask why not. the fact is simple - one of you, is waiting for someone better to come along and will walk.

also, no pesky ring for your man to wear when he is out and about.

you know its true. those that think otherwise are in denial

The_White_Horse

Idiophreak wrote: »

Apparently we should pay for living in sin.

I care enough about my partner to want to wait til I can afford to give her the day she's dreamt of, clearly I should pay more tax than a wife-beating adulterer...afterall, only married families are happy families, right?

yeah yeah. you just don't want to commit. wake up to yourself. you are in denial pal.

Lunary

The_White_Horse wrote: »

you could get married to your partner in a registry office for about 50 quid. The point is, one of you or both of you, don't want to commit. that is the long and short of it. this is bad for your child and bad for society. if your child asks, when he is 6 or 7 "why aren't you and daddy married?" is your answer really that you wanted to save money on a party???

Not getting married is not about commitment for me. It is just something that I don't consider to be necessary. We have been together for 14 years which is longer than a lot of marriages last. I love him, want to be with him for the rest of my life and raise a family with him. However I don't require a piece of paper just to prove that I am committed. As for when my son asks why we aren't married in years to come, I shall just explain to him the points I have outlined above. I am actually quite surprised at your hostility towards unmarried couples, it isn't something I have experienced much and I was under the impression that in today's society, there is no longer any stigma over children born out of wedlock or those who 'live in sin'. I thought we lived in more enlightened times.

inspector_monkfish

The_White_Horse wrote: »

cut all the benefits and let the working partner use the non-working partners tax allowance.

yes, it discriminates against non married couples - GOOD.

Do you run a Wedding Car hire service and times are hard ??
:D

Idiophreak

The_White_Horse wrote: »

yeah yeah. you just don't want to commit. wake up to yourself. you are in denial pal.

I'm not in denial at all.

I've bought a house with my partner, a commitment for, at present, another 34years and 7 months. I wear a "commitment" ring on my wedding finger, as does she. We've been together for 9 happy years and are going strong.

Why do you have such strong feelings about it?
Did your mother not cuddle you enough when you were small?

Do you not believe in love, or commitment, unless they're written down?

Sir_Humphrey

Idiophreak wrote: »

Do you not believe in love, or commitment, unless they're written down?

White Horse is just peed off that he cannot marry himself.