Am i over reacting??

foxy-roxy

I would not be happy at all if my OH flirted like that with a friend of mine, go with what floss said.

Minxy_Bella

Hun - if this was my OH, I'd have his knackers in my handbag!! Nip it in the bud sharpish - before he gets carried away. Seriously!

maggied_2

I would feel quite uneasy about this as well - shame you can't pop round. It probably is harmless but you have:

Flirty conversation (if any of my friends spoke to my OH like that, and if he suggested anything like that to them they'd all be getting a dressing down)
Him wanting to go to the pub because she was there
Her newly single with 3 children to take care of....

I may sound cynical but I'd be keeping a close eye on this - it's obviously made you feel uncomfortable - listen to your intuition.

I'd speak to her beforehand and breezily say "I hear my hubby's in for a bit of a treat when he's doing that job for you" just to make it clear you know what's been said - I'd be embarrassed to have been caught out like that. Actually I would never dream of speaking to a friend's partner like that but everyone's differrent I suppose.

Sorry to sound scaremongering but I have known this kind of situation turn into something more....

"It all started when X's husband came round to do a few jobs....my husband had just left me and I was lonely...."

Seraphseven

emmaBZ wrote: »

i know it probably is harmless but i think the fact he didnt tell me about those bits of the conversation says a lot

Hi emmaBZ i wouldn't read too much into the fact he didn't mention it, If it was harmless banter it could have just been a throw-away comment that needn't be mentioned. You could also consider the fact that he knows it's harmless banter but thinks that if you read it you might not take it that way and could get hurt.

Us blokes never want to argue as much as you ladies and it could be that to save arguments and you being hurt over something which he considers banter he'd rather omit it altogether.

I wouldn't worry to be honest, If it bothers you then keep your eyes peeled for any other signs i.e. he starts being more secretive about his phone, going out for odd reasons more than he used to etc. but just going from a bit of flirting i wouldn't be worried if i were you.

Also i wouldn't let your OH know that you saw the chat, he could consider it snooping which wouldn't be good for the trust in your relationship.

chattycathy1674

I'd be honest with your oh and tell him you're not at all comfortable with what was said etc....and how does he think you should feel if he does go around to hers to do these jobs? Reverse it and how would he feel if you were flirting like that. I think the sneakiest bit is when he wanted to just go to the local instead of the meal because he knew she would be there.
End of the day, your instincts have kicked in and you are not comfortable with things. We have instincts for a reason and too often we let ourselves overide them.
Maybe nothing is ever going to happen between them but I don't think I'd like to risk it even having a chance! I'd be with him, as mentioned above, when he does the jobs. Either that or you, her + kiddies all disappear to the park to let him get on with things without anyone under his feet. Good luck hun <{;0)x

sclancy1

I would be more worried because she is newly single...very easy to cry on his shoulder etc.. I have to say again I would either be going along with him (kids in tow) or I would be giving her the no of a handyman who can do all her odd jobs. There are bound to be more in the future if she is not good at diy and it will be too easy for her to call on him after he's already done her one favour!

Pssst

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Hun - if this was my OH, I'd have his knackers in my handbag!! Nip it in the bed sharpish - before he gets carried away. Seriously!

Was that a Freudian slip...?

Minxy_Bella

Pssst wrote: »

Was that a Freudian slip...?

I don't know what I was thinking!!

jess1974

I'd be furious if my husband flirted like that with another woman, and quite often affairs start out as a bit of harmless flirting and banter, but things quickly escalate..

I'd keep a close eye on him emmaBZ xxx

ixwood

hmmm. Smells a bit fishy to me. Are you sure they're not already "acquainted"?