When you are ill (hubby moan!)

gabyjane

Does your husband/partner etc help out? i'm feeling a bit miffed tonight tbh.
I had an ingrowing toenail op yesterday, not major no but it hurt and meant no driving etc..consequently dh has been left to do a whole days worth of helping out and i'm fed up of the attitude (I will point out as mean as he may sound it is just him, deep down he cares etc)..
He moaned all the way to the hospital..sat there as didn't want to come in..when the nurse went to get him he was no where to be seen..not his fault but still couldn't find him when i wanted him..
i asked him to do the school runs for me to which he did after moaning..apparantly i never work though so i asked him exactly what was the prob..last night things like the kitten had pooed and i asked him to empty the tray..his attitude is 'it's not my kitten' yes thanks i said 1 time i ask you to do it to which he begrudgingly did..no sympathy at all do i get and i am never ever ill..today he gets home and id'e had a good day, he never asked me about the hospital that ide hobbled down to etc and started telling me he wasn't out late (he usually works late weds) i was annoyed as babysitting and could have had the car so said i wished he'd remember to tell me..thing is he is adamant he did etc and the argument goes on..
I'm sat thinking he's not really fussed and I have just had a text saying 'your get well pressie will be in the post tom or fri..not that you deserve it'..yeah thanks for that am i supposed to be thankfull..i feel really fed up for having to carry on as normal when i should be allowed at least one day off..
Back to work tommorow and cleaning up the house as normal..grr men..
I will regret posting this tom and feel terrible but just feel like his jokey ways are sometimes a little tiring..he is a very good husband if not a little hard work at times!

xxvickixx

I think quite a lot of men are like this. My husband was like this when I was very ill after having our son. He even went to work when I was having operations. I felt very let down and abandoned by the behaviour but he has since said that he didn't know what he could have done while I was having the op. He is loving and wonderful in every way apart from this one time I was seriously ill. I have had counselling about the way he dealt with it and I think it is just the way some men deal with things and prioritise in a different way. He was giving practical support instead of emotional and didn't get that I needed him there physically!

Hope that helps, at least you will know that it's not just you! x

gabyjane

Thanks hun..i make him sound awful i do and he's really not just a bit too jokey at times!..i know what he would say to me moaning he wasn't in with me having the op..'you didn't want me there' as i said after lots of winding up i didn't!..as for the cat litter he will say 'you know im only joking' if i say anything else he will say 'well if you dont know my humour by now there is no hope etc'..
Ill be fine tommorow ill be back to normal..washing cooking cleaning lol!
Thanks

babymoo

No tbh, my DP is fantastic when I am I'll and when I go to hospital he barely leaves my side. I guess each guy deals with it differently?

shellsuit

Mine is a star, he looks after me, will cook, sort the kids out, clean and run me wherever i need to be.

dora37

shellsuit wrote: »

Mine is a star, he looks after me, will cook, sort the kids out, clean and run me wherever i need to be.

Mine too!

xxvickixx

Hmmmm, never been tempted to go for another woman's bloke before but..... where do you lucky girls live???


Only joking, your DH's are good to you though x

bulchy

My oh is brill when I'm ill (thankfully doesnt happen often) but then again he does a lot around the house anyway, so tbh he wouldnt struggle anyway. He takes good care of me offering cups of tea even though he has a phobia about tea bags :rotfl: and does the extra dog walks etc without grumbling. Not big on buying pressies but will go out and buy me a newspaper/magazine even though we never normaly buy a newspaper, I'm very lucky, and let him know I am, and he knows on the rare occaisons that hes ill, I would return the favour too.
Sue x

foxy-roxy

My OH is good to start with....then he kind of gets bored of acting like the knight in shining armour then the moaning starts

cakeordeath_2

you have a good whinge gabyjane!

I'm with you on this one...although yesterday I wasn't ill, it was my birthday and my OH sat on his bum all day! He's out of work atm (probably feeling a bit low) and I'm still doing all the housework and trying to cut back on absolutely everything so that we can get by.
A few months ago I won a 3 course lunch for 2 at a local restaurant and I thought that yesterday would have been a perfect time to cash it in, so I asked him to book a table. He tried on Monday but couldn't get through so anyway it didn't happen, yet a few hours after I'd put a curry made from leftover beef in the slow cooker for the evening meal he asked if he should ring a different restaurant to have a meal out that night!! I mean!!!! hello??!!

I do know that it is partly my fault...we actually got married on my birthday, which was my idea, not because I thought that it would be romantic, but because I knew that when he forgot both of them, I'd only have to be mad at him once!! But now when I say, "give me a break, it's my birthday!" , he replies, "well it's my wedding anniversary!"!!

Hey, this looks a lot funnier than it feels when it's written down!!! lol