The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

gien

quick flying visit,

morning all, another AFD for me yesterday, so 12 for me I think.

Eselt, thankyou for that post - your experiences are really interesting.

Welcome Debt,

Have a great day

changing_ways

Just came across this (from now deceased Pope) while looking for caramelised onion recipe, and wanted to share as it seemed so relevant to a lot of us on here.

1. Only for today, I will seek to live the livelong day positively, without wishing to solve the problems of my life all at once.
...
10. Only for today, I will have no fears. In particular, I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe in goodness. Indeed, for twelve hours I can certainly do what might cause me consternation were I to believe I had to do it all my life.

Miss_Piggy_2

Hello all

10 for me please Marru

Miss P

signs_of_recovery

Good morning.
Well, I completely surprised myself by stopping after the second glass of red last night. Surprised myself because I've had the most horrendous headache since lunchtime yesterday, but I seemed to get stubborn somewhere along the line! Normally I would have used that as an excuse to finish the bottle....
I can only really put that change of attitude down to actually admitting to you guys in public that I have a problem, and reading your experiences.
As compensation for the headache, I looked in the mirror this morning and noticed my face is not as swollen as it has been apt to look recently. (Vanity thy name is woman...:rolleyes:)
Got a busy evening this evening, with childrens panto, and again tomorrow with another panto. Hopefully that will prove a useful distraction.
Am now having vitamin b, and making sure I have porridge for breakfast to keep me going.
Here's to AF soon!!!!!

ineedtokickthehabbit

Hi there everyone

I was AF last night as well.

I had real cravings for something sweet all night so was having hot chocolate and that fizzy grape juice stuff.

Did not sleep great again last night. Do any of you take any herbal sleeping tablets to help you through the first few weeks.

I do feel fine today though even with not having the good sleep, suppose its due to no hangover LOL.

This thread is great for moral support and inspiration.

Thanks
H

yellowmonkey

Hi and welcome debt :hello:


AF today so will make 10 in total please Marru :j

Expecting snow tomorrow and have DD1s carol service at the church tonight Still feeling good and dont feel like having a drink......Always on guard though

Take care

jo1972

Love the smiley YM!

AF yesterday Marru but dont know what my AF days are cos cant see it on the phone, its 1 more than it says iykwim. Hopefully AF tonight, sat outside DD1 school waiting for her shes rehearsing for her drama exam tomorrow and hopefully I wont have to go out again.

Hope you all have good evenings x

Marru

Good evening,

I promised yesterday that normal service returns today but sorry it isn't. I am finally losing the battle against the cold/flu bug that I have been trying to shift off for ages now. Can't afford to be ill as I have last two weeks off from work and need to finish stuff before that, have training tomorrow and xmas lunch on Friday and also need to drive DD to see her God Mother on Sunday. Monday I can crash and no sooner.

So scores are here:

Pledged 498 had 210 AF days which is 42% in 48% of time

And full table here as usual

DD wants food and I need about 5 layers of clothing the way I am feeling so need to go. Byeee...

squizz_2

eselt wrote: »

Hi all

Hope everyone is OK tonight.

Jo_ your GP sounds rubbish, but I've had really mixed experiences with GP's. Sometimes its almost as if its better to hide your problem drinking and carry on than seek help. When I first sought help and had to say 'hands up I've got a problem here' I didn't get a great response-because I was still working (as a teacher for 16 yrs) my GP said if I was a colleague of his he would report me to the BMA and get me suspended which completely freaked me out, so I phoned my DS's dad and asked him to look after him whilst I went through home detox and I then had a visit from a social worker who wanted to know the exact arrangements- she actually said to me (and I kid you not!!) in front of my ex OH that why didn't I get addicted to something like chocolate (!!!) because she was and she found this managable!!!! My ex OH still tells the story to this day with disbelief she could have been so naive and unaware of what we were going through. On my last (and hopefully, the very last) home detox I had my little DD ill with flu at the same time so was staying at her dads, I phoned school on monday, a parent who knew through gossip at the school gate told the class teacher I was having a home detox and teacher phoned social services, who then phoned my ex OH to see where she was and that I was not looking after her. All of these things made me very wary of seeking help- it seems like the stigma of being a self confessed alcoholic is 10X worse than just covering it up and not seeking the help that is out there.

Lessons learned? Find a confidential service, don't blab about it to too many people (as other peoples misfortunes are always good for gossip) and let anyone that might be interested in a professional capacity know whats happening and be honest even if they are muppets and its clear they don't have a clue about the difficulties you are facing. Jo, take care, and find someone who is not flippant that you can trust. It still seems bizarre to me that when I was a drunk in the pub everyone thought I was the life and soul, when I stuck my hands up and said 'help' I'm an alcoholic, that label changed everything. No wonder alcholism is such a secretive activity for so many of us.

Lurky- pies looked truly scrumptious- might even have a go at making some of my own for the first time this year-yum.

Best of luck over the xmas period to posters old and new- my plan is to offer to drive everywhere- its such a vulnerable time for us all.

Fay- I feel truly upset that you are giving up your studies for the time being, you've done so much work, and it must have been such a difficult decision- nevertheless you know whats best for you and the kids, so onwards and upwards hun.

Catch you all tommorrow.

Hey Eselt - I absolutely agree with your post re health "professionals" and your acquaintances. I know the NHS is hard pressed but the chocolate thing sums it up - it is not seen as an illness, just a weakness which can be replaced by something harmless if we want to. What a load of bull!! :mad:

We put ourselves out there often at professional and personal risk and get treated like a waste of time. It makes me v MAD!!!! :mad:

And like you say - everyone loves you when you're the "life and soul" but when you tell them you need to cut back you are boring, if you end up wasted you're the liability that they have to look after - in my experience anyway.

Anyway - rant over, hope everyone has a good evening. I won't be AF but will not be drinking much (one good friend who won't let me!)

Squizz xx

yellowmonkey

Hope you are feeling better soon Marru


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