Do you worry what people think

heavensent_3

Just had the balliffs turn up as my ex has not paid a Parking ticket on the car that is sitting in my drive.It now has a clamp on with a big sticker on the windscreen.

I explained he dosent live here any more but was keeping the car on my drive as it is un taxed and he couldnt park it on the road.They were ok about it to be honest but while i was discussing it with them both sets of neigbours came out and decided to listen to the whole conversation.

I have done everything in my power to sort out my own debts but feel completly devastated now because living in a small village i know that it is only a matter of time before it becomes public knowledge that i am in trouble.

Am i stupid to feel this way?

Does anyone else worry about people finding out about their debt?

I almost feel it is worse for people to know about my situation than the situation itself if that makes sense...

Sorry just needed to offload as i have no one to turn to..

RAS

Hi

Sorry it is so hard - I know how nosy and gosipy villages can - be everyone knows if you had bacon for breakfast.

But it is a problem with your ex, not you, so keep you chin up. be brazen if possible - "feel really peed off with him making me look stupid in the village".

And while you are about it, ad an l to public?

heavensent_3

RAS wrote: »

Hi

Sorry it is so hard - I know how nosy and gosipy villages can - be everyone knows if you had bacon for breakfast.

But it is a problem with your ex, not you, so keep you chin up. be brazen if possible - "feel really peed off with him making me look stupid in the village".

And while you are about it, ad an l to public?

LOL

Thank you for making me laugh !!!!

I wouldnt want it to become "pubic knowledge"that would just be the last straw...he he

Deep_In_Debt

I don't give a monkeys about what people think. If they feel the urge to come out and "nose" then what sad lives they have! I just think it would be fun that everybody was interested in my life!

heavensent_3

Deep_In_Debt wrote: »

I don't give a monkeys about what people think. If they feel the urge to come out and "nose" then what sad lives they have! I just think it would be fun that everybody was interested in my life!

Thanks Deep in Debt

I wish i could be more like you.. Its not just what happened today but all the stuff that goes with it,like phone calls at work and people always asking stuff..

I am too thin skinned I know...

Thanks for your reply

Numpty_Monkey

I think one of the main things being on here has taught me is the nerd club motto

"Proud To Be Dealing With My Debts"

At the place I used to work I was amazed the people who would talk to me about debts, after I was honest enough with them to say the above motto:T

You are dealing with your debts:T
your ex ain't:rolleyes:

heavensent_3

Numpty_Monkey wrote: »

I think one of the main things being on here has taught me is the nerd club motto

"Proud To Be Dealing With My Debts"

At the place I used to work I was amazed the people who would talk to me about debts, after I was honest enough with them to say the above motto:T

You are dealing with your debts:T
your ex ain't:rolleyes:

Thanks Numpty

I think half the problem is that i live in an affluent area surrounded by people who have money to burn.I just feel like i have no one who i can confide in .

Thank you again for your kind words

Deep_In_Debt

heavensent wrote: »

Thanks Deep in Debt

I wish i could be more like you.. Its not just what happened today but all the stuff that goes with it,like phone calls at work and people always asking stuff..

I am too thin skinned I know...

Thanks for your reply

I didn't mean to be flippant or upset you in anyway and apologies if I did.

I have been where you are and do know where you are coming from...I still get people asking stuff and I either tell them to b!gger off and mind their own business or I'm flattered that they are interested in me.

You are facing things and that's the main thing...

yorkshire-lad

Don't take it to heart,just ignore them,if people having nothing else better to do than to nosey on others business then their own lives must be pretty blunt.

I personally would have said something to them,but that's just me.

Numpty_Monkey

heavensent wrote: »

Thanks Numpty

I think half the problem is that i live in an affluent area surrounded by people who have money to burn.I just feel like i have no one who i can confide in .

Thank you again for your kind words

Always remember "they" want you to think they have money, most are only one missed pay cheque away from deep doodoo;)

You could become an MSE ambassedor for your village:T:T:A

WASHER

heavensent wrote: »

Thanks Numpty

I think half the problem is that i live in an affluent area surrounded by people who have money to burn.I just feel like i have no one who i can confide in .

Thank you again for your kind words

I bet you any money they will have debts, most people spend more than they earn despite their income. You are not alone, you are facing your debts, s*d the neighbours.