Child Tax Credit - how much can they take?

Dancing_Shoes

You should splash out on a new one the day after her payments end and offer her a lift:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I am evil today:p

Blonde_Bint

lol. tee hee. :rotfl:

although funny I couldnt be ar sed:D

you know what I'm saying though dont you. old banger of a car but good workings on the inside making it more reliable all she'll see is the badge on the front and think 'hello hes got loads of money'.:D

years ago my father had a very old bmw, not much to look at but it was a great car never a days problem with it. dh tells me that mostly BM's and mercs are quite good mechanically, i've got no idea.:o

bdt1

We had similar with our beloved PWC!!!!

She stalks our home from time to time, just to keep herself updated, she applied for departure on lifestyle inconsistent with declared income - she sent pics of a flash brand new car parked regularly on our drive to the CSA, and wrote them letters, stating how could my hubs (NRP) possibly afford the aforesaid flash car on his declared income, she even printed off a guide price for brand new from the car manufacturer website.

So, many months down the line, and after lots of hassle, she took us to a Tribunal on the strength of the car, and a few other allegations, only to be presented with a P11D (Think can't remember), and a statement from my employer to say that I had been allocated a company car as part of my new job (I'm NRPP) and again the P11D to show evidence with regard to my tax.

SO FUNNY - she lost the Tribunal Appeal, and hasn't recently submitted any pics of cars on our drive to CSA - as far as I'm aware anyway!!!

I too cross the days off until we are free of this leech, (kids 19 and 16) she has tried to bleed us dry for years, we have always paid maintenance, but whatever we have paid has and never will be enough for her, she's very bitter, it's a sad waste of her life and energies.

Blonde_Bint

:rotfl: it would be funny if it wasnt how we spent most of our life.

lol the sort of stuff you describe is exactly the same incidents that were happening to us for about 10yrs ish, solid, every six months we would be off down the court/solicitors road, I promise when our time is up the hubby can have anything he wants I wont give a 4 x golf clubs car you name it, I wont bother my head about it. I wont have to:D. Although thats a bit disturbing your kids are 16 and 19 so it should all be quietening down now for you bdlt. no strings to be yanking with the 19yr old and only a few more years of cr*p to be had for your pwc for the 16yr old:T then yours and the childrens life will be your own together.

I dont know anyone else who lives like we do, only you bdlt and a couple of others on here names are escaping me at the moment.

Dancing_Shoes

Its so sad really, it never seems to be the pwc's that are not being paid etc that take to harrassment it seems to be the really greedy ones who just want more
Rest assured I have no time for Nrp's who don't pay towards their children and for that reason it is good that the CSA are around. We used to pay over and above what we needed to because we thought this would give us an easy life but it was just as difficult. Once the children are old enough and we are not paying the pwc we will pay them direct instead to help fund their education or first car etc and I won't begrudge a penny of it!

Thriftysaver

Hi, thanks DD and BB. OP sorry for taking over your thread. we have 15 months of arrears to pay and step child has gone back to college aged 17 so possibly have to pay until week after 20th birthday.

I try not to get bitter. And I know what goes around comes around. It's just not fair (stamp stamp toys out of pram ha ha). Oh says he wouldn't pi$$ on her if she was on fire (nice). But as you say, and I know, it will end and then it's over. She can then go to hell for all I care.

Dya know what really upsets me? I hate her for making me hate ( good catholic girl I am). I don't like feeling what I feel. I am not a horrible person. I like helping people.

Anyway I start UNI next week (Law) maybe I'll have a go at the govt in a few years when I'm better armed. (I wish).

Thanks


Thriftysaver

Dancing_Shoes

:rotfl::rotfl:Don't worry my oh has said much worse about our pwc!!! They have no communication now. At the end of the day I don't feel hate for her anymore I feel pity, I have everything she wanted;):p

Blonde_Bint

Do you know, heres a thought for the day, I wonder if we are treated like this because we just want to get along and not upset or get in anybody's way. you two sound like you have a similar personality or disposition as me. I dont have a row with anyone, in my entire life if you held a survey of every person I ever met and asked them is BB a troublemaker does she like a good row, your answer every time would be 'you dont know shes there' and trouble and BB are the last thing that come together. since meeting our pwc app. i'm nothing but trouble and its all me. I wondered at times if there was something I was doing could stop, when I realised nothing short of 'stop breathing' was going to do it I stopped being concerned. I am many things but in this affair I wasnt the trouble no matter what she says.

If I had a tougher harder out look I might be less affected even unaffected by our pwc's bad mouth/actions, maybe. I too feel i've had to alter my personality slightly just when it comes to the situation with our pwc to be tough and non giving (if that makes sense). I didnt sit down and think right i'm going to be tough and do this this and this. I dont know when or how it happened just that i'm different now to how I was 5 10 yrs ago and I didnt notice it happening.

I think perhaps we felt it more than others because we wouldnt even dream that a person would do these things to others so we were surprised when a person did this, I know I was, each incident for many years I was surprised each time until the truth finally dawned on me about 5 yrs into the 'project' she is never going to stop this because the system is facilitating her actions. just like to point out that I am also aware that the system equally facilitates nrps who are real determined to behave equally as badly.;)

No, keep yer chin up, time is our friend:D lol (a gem this ) and every day you go cr*pless should be treated as a gift from the gods :rotfl: else ya'll not ger another:p

bdt1

Well said BB!!!!

I used to cry and stamp a lot when the PWC kept on hounding and harrassing us, but now I feel nothing ever in the world can surprise me anymore, I'm no longer outraged at her disgusting behaviour, nor am I shocked at her low tactics, or even get a tad vexed when she writes me filthy, foul letters, stating my children are bas****s, and I'm a vile lady of the night - I now smile, she stoops lower than any human I've ever come across, and as you say why ???? I have the life she yearns. Beautiful children to my husband (therefore they are not bast***s, yet she was never married), a nice home, and the love and security of my family, just to add, the PWC and my hubs had split a long time before I came on the scene, so it wasn't as if I even took him from her, she drove him away all by herself!

kelloggs36

Clearly, she is extremelt jealous.