as long as i have the church the rings the man of my dreams and my closest .....

superfran_uk

I totally agree. I'm not happy at all about paying out thousands to feed OH's extended family which runs to over 50 people and I would have put my foot down but his parents are putting in towards the wedding... It's still annoying that he has over twice the guests I do, because I'd much rather spend that money on so many other things (the mortgage or the honeymoon being two I can think of!) but at least they realise requests come at a price... And it does mean we can have a more formal wedding meal, rather than the disco and buffet which I had always thought would be cheap and cheerful!

phantom_zone

emlou2009 wrote: »

being stupidly stubborn about it as he thinks he has to invite them, cos he went to their wedding :rolleyes:

Common courtesy...if someone invited you to their wedding ( and you go ) then you return the invitation! I couldn't believe a recent wedding I was at when the Bride didn't invite a friend she'd had for 10+ years ( who invited her to his wedding ) because she'd ditched everyone she knew when she met her husband and basically hadn't seen him in a couple of years....

Dinah93

I think its very easy to say don't invite people, and its fine if you're having a small do and not having an extra 200 to the evening or something mad, but don't expect people to travel a long way if they're only invited to the evening do, I don't really think thats on.

We're getting married in September and my fiance is from Ireland, so basically all his family is getting invited to the whole day, as well as my family who are scattered from Aberdeen to Bournmouth! We're really looking forward to having a big wedding with everyone around us who wants to be there, and I in no way begrudge paying £50 for their meal and drinks, I think its only polite, when they've spent a lot more travelling to be there, renting a room over night, probably getting a new hat and a present and so on.

Tigerlilley1980

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

hi

how are you doing this? i really like this idea are you hiring a village hall or a grand place or just everything really i would like a sit down meal but i can do a sit down buffet as long as its all formal

sorry to reawake this

We had our food after the ceremony and they served ot on silver trays while the photos were being taken. As the night do started at 7pm and we had the speeches at 6.30pm, we didn't have much to much time between the cermony and reception. It was long enough though for the official pics to be taken and for everyone else to enjoy the food and wine. It went down a storm. The hotel provided all the food and charged us about £10 a head, there was 28 people. We had the whole thing at the Hallmark in Carlisle and it was totally fabulous. Altogether the reception food, room hire and food and drink after the ceremony came to just over a grand. HTh If you need to know anything just get in touch xxx