as long as i have the church the rings the man of my dreams and my closest .....

fly_dragon_fly

i think i will be ok.

we gave ourselves a £4000 budget but with me losing my job and not finding anything else we can only save just over £2000 and with the food for 100 people coming in at £3000 i have decided rather than wanting a wedding i dreamed of i would rather have a wedding with my dearest and nearest and have a sit down meal with my top 40 people and then have a evening do for all other guests because i am starting to think that all weddings are is about showing off and having to invite people who you never see and talk to because you have to cause its a wedding.

if we cut down the sit down meal from 100 to 40 people it would make it £1200 for the food!

sorry to rant but im starting to realise i dont actually want a bunch of people i dont know and i kinda begrudge paying £30 a head for a aunt i've never meet.

any one else feel like this ? xx

saintly_2

yep!! my OH met some family for the 1st time at the weekend, the 1st time since he was 5 years old he soon to be 30 and he wants them at the wedding breakfast. he has written people on the guest list who he hasnt seen for years and even written one guy down as andys mate the driving instructor!!

the wedding is about you, your OH and the people who love you!! not the hangers on who you never really see. its your day, do it your way and if anyone moans, stuff them!!

we are on a budget and i have to get strict with the OH otherwise the food is gonna wipe out the other savings we have made.

x

emlou2009

i totally agree! we are having 40 people to our meal, and from "my side" i'm only having 14 people - 9 close family and 5 friends. OH has filled the rest of the places with random family members he hasnt seen for years :rolleyes: and is being stupidly stubborn about it as he thinks he has to invite them, cos he went to their wedding :rolleyes: i'm trying to change his mind but so far he isnt budging! its really annoying cos our package only caters for 30 meals and we have to pay £17 a head for those extra 10 people - thats more than my landy dress will cost!!

Littlemadam83

Here here to all your comments. It is right what someone has said about why pay £30.00 a head for someone you dont even know! We looked at all the gorgeous big venues down here and just could not justify spending thousands on food alone, and if you dont have their minimum number for exapmle they charge you anyway (I did not want to pay for 80 people!).

We dabbled with the idea of Gretna, went up to visit and found a lovely church just outside the main touristy bit and then my fiance and me are taking 15 of our nearest and dearest over to the 4* hotel there, £30.00 a head and no minimum numbers.

Everyone else can come to the party when we come back! And they will have a nice buffet :money:

beverleyhills

The wedding is about the commitment to a partnership with each other, that you make in public before 2+ witnesses, who hopefully are your nearest and dearest.
Your witnesses should make a commitment to you, to be there to support you both in the good and the rough times you encounter in your marriage and not be there just for the beer.
Good luck. I hope that you have a long and happy marriage.

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

I can't offer any advice but I wish you a happy marriage.
We spent £2.50 for our marriage licence and that was all our wedding cost us.
We did'nt want any fuss,just to be together and so me and my husband and two witnesses went to the registry office and we were married.
That was 38 years ago,a "posh do" or any fuss would'nt have made those years any less special.

fly_dragon_fly

thanks ladies for the replies i was starting to think it was just me being selfish but thanks!!!

always liked the idea of getting away and getting married i love scotland but i would like my grandparents to come and they haven't come to kent since 1993 so to expect them to go to scotland just wouldn't happen.

think i am going to talk my partner into just having the wedding then invited the people i care about then having a lovely evening do and am going to make it for under £2000 i have decided!!!

Panda_on_a_Bike

We thought the same, we are getting married on 25th Sept. 2009 and there are only 12 guests including us. It's still a normal wedding, just smaller.... saved the money for the honeymoon

sunshinejoclaire

My husband did that. I wore him down over some people eventually lol when I explained the 'cost' of having someone there for the full day. He could only see the cost of the meal (£13), but I explained there is the cost of the favour for that person, the cost of the toast/reception drinks, the cost of the wine...

Tigerlilley1980

Goodness me yes. One of the reasons we are getting married at 4.30pm is that we don't want a sit down meal and have the dilemma of choosing who we want to be at it!! We just can't afford it and instead are having mince pies, mulled wine, turkey and cranberry sandwiches and sausages in bacon, which is coming in at £300 for 30, after the ceremony then a big buffet at the reception for everyone. It is a lot easier and saving a fortune lol!!

Tiger xxx

fly_dragon_fly

Tigerlilley1980 wrote: »

Goodness me yes. One of the reasons we are getting married at 4.30pm is that we don't want a sit down meal and have the dilemma of choosing who we want to be at it!! We just can't afford it and instead are having mince pies, mulled wine, turkey and cranberry sandwiches and sausages in bacon, which is coming in at £300 for 30, after the ceremony then a big buffet at the reception for everyone. It is a lot easier and saving a fortune lol!!

Tiger xxx

hi

how are you doing this? i really like this idea are you hiring a village hall or a grand place or just everything really i would like a sit down meal but i can do a sit down buffet as long as its all formal

sorry to reawake this