Teenagers and grandparents

red_devil

I was reading this morning that teenagers are closer to their grandparents that ever before?

Are yours close to theirs?
How much do they see them?
Do they confide in them?

timberflake

Well I'm not a parent, and I'm not a teenager either, but growing up I've always been closer to my nanna than anyone else in my family. I'm 25 now and still go round to see her twice a week, walking two miles there from work and two miles from her house home. I see my mum about once a month! So I would say what you read is true imo.

Any

Well, my stepson tells my MIL absolutely everything. Even things he doesn't tell his father.
They speak every week (my son lives in Ireland) and he's got her wrapped around his little finger...

ithinkyourcrazy

I am very close to my grandparents that are sill alive. I see them everyday, before work and after work. I am a bit older than a teenager now! When my other grandparents were alive i saw them every two weeks, i used to stay a day and a night from the age of 2 untill i was 19 (when they died). A lot of my friends never see their grandparents. If i am not at work or i miss seeing my nan as she has gone to work, I ring her in the evening. It's good to have a close relationship with grandparents as they aren't around forever.

winnie81

My kids and us are close to there grandparents as they live very close. The Inlaws live just over the road and my mum lives a few streets away so the 4 kids are at the inlaws 2-3 week for a hour or so sometimes for tea through the week and often sleep over at weekends too. They also have tea with there other nan and sleep over in the holidays there as she works odd shifts.
They are very very close to there grandparents and do tell them everything - sometimes more than were told LOL

I love that they are so close and have agreat relationship with the grandparents and will always encourage it as both kids and grandparents love it so its win-win all round

My kids aren't quite teenagers yet but I can't see that it will change as they get older as there older cousins are also very very close and see them very often too

Claire x

System

I was very close to my grandparents on my mum's side, they always had me and my siblings on a wednesday and we'd do stuff like days out etc. They were like second parents to me and i was devestated when i lost them in 2001/2007 :(n But i have some wonderful memories of times spent with them

Can't say the same for the ones on my dad's side. I was always the black sheep of the family and was usually treated as such and haven't had contact with them in over 3 years since i cut off contact with my dad, sadly my nan passed away a few weeks ago but family relation are that strained i didn't even go to the funeral.

joshieg3011

My grandad (mum's dad) moved in with us when I was 3 (my nana died then). He effectively brought me up as both my parents worked full time. I was very close to him and even when I moved of the family home to own flat then eventually married and had two children I used to visit him all the time. My mum always used to say he worshipped the ground I walked on and I think the reason I have so much confidence now is that he always encouraged me in whatever I did (he thought I could do anything I put my mind to!)

He died two years ago, aged 94, and I still miss him desperately. I always felt like I was still a child when I was with him, instead of a wife and mother! My children still talk about him a lot and we have photos around the house of him.

I wasn't as close to my dad's parents as I always found them to be a bit strict (although I used to enjoy baking with my gran when I was younger).

My children now have a good relationship with their grandparents, although they see my mum and dad a lot more than my husband's parents - this is partly due to the fact that they don't drive and their paternal grandfather is in the pub every day....

red_devil

I only had 2 grannies both grandads passed away young.
We used to see them regularly. They didnt live too far.
One died when i was 10 one died when i was 26.


I would love to have had a grandad did i miss out?

My son still has all his grandparents alive?

Katie-Kat-Kins

My granny died when I was 4 so I don't know. I do think any teenagers who still have their grandparents are incredibly lucky.

Having said that when I was a teenager I had two fab uncles who weren't a bad substitute.

Katie-Kat-Kins

red_devil wrote: »

I would love to have had a grandad did i miss out?

My son still has all his grandparents alive

Me neither, I reckon they should have an adopt a grandparent scheme. My friend works for meals on wheels and it is really tragic the number of elderly folk who have no family, or no one around and so much to offer, I'm sure some of them would love a regular visitor and would have a lot to offer a young person with no grandparents. Relationships with the older generation can be very beneficial.

and your son is very lucky, I hope he appreciates them and makes the most of them.

tanith

I am close to all of my grandchildren, and see some of them several times a week, I often take the smallest one to school and help out there too, the older ones do text me often and pop in to see me. They tell me things that they don't tell Mum and Dad and I can slip them the odd penny or two when things are tight.... they confide in me about relationships and sometimes I have to be careful I don't drop them in it to Mum and Dad when they tell me about some escapade or the other... I try to give them good memories to store away for when I am gone (many yrs hence I hope) so that they can relate to their own children how important it is to be close to family and how good it makes you feel to have people that love you no matter what mistakes you make...