Scared r.e dd starting secondary..

gabyjane

We are sat here doing her school preferences and i have to say i'm pretty scared by it all! seems to have crept up quickly and im wondering if we are putting the right choices etc..

We have her first and second choice which are both happy with but for the 3rd it is really hard..she likes the idea of a school which is another grammer BUT without trying to put a downer on things i have said if she doesnt pass her 11+ she won't get in to 2 of them which leaves only 1 which is very close to where we live but if she doesnt get oin for some reason im guessing she will end up god knows where..BUT the 3rd choice and only school is not near and have just read that you have to pay for the travel which is almost £300 per year..seems a bit if a nightmare as we live so close to 1 and hoping choice number 3 doesn't come into it!

Second thing is her sister goes to her 2nd choice school but doesnt live with us..im not sure this is a good or bad thing putting her down as gives her a slightly better chance of going but then i wonder if they wonder why she doesnt live with me? (no bad reason as such btw!)

11+ panicking as says add form so and so and we havent got one..when is this done? does the school send out..

Im feeling very lost and useless and trying to be positive for dd but finding it hard and have sent her off for a shower!

Help! or advice really as to how yours went as know our minds have to be her decision!
Thanks

peachyprice

Why don't you wait until the schools start having their open evenings in October. There's no point in trying to decide on schools until your DD has visited them and has a feel for the ones she would feel comfortable in or not.

I found it much easier once my sons had visited them all and had a clear idea of the ones they definitley didn't want to go to and the ones they would consider, we then put them in order of their preference. We couldn't have done this if they hadn't actually been to any of them. There were definitley ones they thought they wouldn't mind but once they'd been there was no way they wanted to go there.

gabyjane

I agree but our clsing dates are very close to the open days and feel like we should get them done now..she has been round 2 of them already so it is only one and hope it doesnt come to that! i know what you are saying but feel we are leaving it till the last min.

gabyjane

Well it is hard as have a couple of things i am not sure on but have filled them in and done..the things are:

My daughter who doesnt live with mus but feel i should be honest so have filled it in BUt am worried they will think there is a reason they dont and it will affect her place?

3rd choice is not really where i want her to go but nice..hard r.e travle etc but that is the prob with all of them so..

Well done now so will just ahve to wait..ahhh its so stressful!

peachyprice

But you won't get processed any quicker if you send your forms back 2 months before everyone else. They process them all at the same time after the closing date.

If schools have their own separate admissions forms they usually give them out at the open evening or she may get one to bring home from her primary school if it's in the catchment area.

11+ exams won't be until after Christmas, the shools will send you out an appointment to attend much nearer the time, usually on a Saturday morning.

Perhaps your daughter is feeling like she's being rushed into making a decision her friends are being given more time to consider.

I really cannot see why you're pushing her to choose before she's even gone back/just gone back to school and TBH, she could be feeling like you're making it more of a drama than is necessary.

gabyjane

Hi it is dd nagging for me to get it done and has been for the last few days..tbh there are only limited choices she can choose so it is not so much an issue of that just the fact she wants it done and dusted. her friends have either done theirs or are doing tommorow so thats not a reason either but she doesnt know this so its not due to them or me pressuring, she is also not led by them and not bothered if they attend other schools as such.
The reason i asked was there is one school she wanted to poss choose over the other 3rd one another which i was trying to explain is a grammar and if she doesnt pass then it is another no no and limits her options. As for the 11+ well hers is this Nov about a week after the school visits so not much time and feel she may be more rushed then if we leave it..she has seen both schools and is happy with the choices it is just me worrying!