Huffed my mother in law

MicheH

I was discussing my SOA with my mother in law today - she likes to know the far end of a far* :rolleyes:

Anyway, her and her partner are on JSA mainly because they can't find their perfect job and are bringing in £30 a week apparently because they have some savings. When she found out how much we could be allowed as basic needs (namely shopping and separate clothing allowance) she kicked off big style complaining that it's a disgrace, how can anybody be forced to live off £30 because they've lost their job and we're allowed 'all that' when we've been bankrupt!? I didn't have ananswer to it but the more I think about it the more I can see her point. Her main gripe was when I told her the OR had allowed us haircutting costs and holiday costs.. red rag to a bull :rotfl:maybe I knew what I was doing

MicheH

Ah, my husband has just read my post and said that the difference is he's working hard to provide for his family regardless of who we owe or do not owe money too. We're a one wage family so surplus is a minimum.

Oops, huffed my husband now lol

tigerfeet2006

Yes Mich, what your DH is right though.

movingforward2010

ermmm tell her to get a bloody job!

script

The OR will allow certain living expenses...

And they certainly don't let you to live a life of wanton luxury and extravagance.

But they are only really applicable IF you have the income.

Many BR's only have JSA, IB, DLA etc. Or a low wage or salary.

So - many BR's don't ever get a chance to claim all the expenses they would be allowed.

movingforward2010

the main reason they allow us us these expenses is because for example when the car breaks down and costs £££ we cant just stick it on the CC and pay it back £20 a month.

MicheH

I am by no way gloating here, the smilies and winks are just for the payback of having a nosey opinionated mother in law.

I've put a lot of thought into what she said and she is so right in what she says but my husband is working so really there should not be any comparison. I'm prepared for DH to lose his job tomorrow and would be very greatful for any JSA he would receive

movingforward2010

if they 'can't find their perfect job' and decide to live off the state for this reason they have no right to start on you, the cheeky ............

miss_spooky

Also they would be receiving more if they didn't have savings - something that BR haven't got...

dollparts

Miche, I would be cautious about who you explain your situation to.

I don't mean in the sense that you have something to hide or be ashamed of (no way) I just think that BR is often something people have no real concept of unless they have experienced it or happen to know the particulars by some other means.

Maybe playing your cards close to your chest for now at least would be a good way of just getting on with your life without the pressure of whether someone has a clear enough awareness of consequences of BR.

Otherwise, the chances are you will spend most of your efforts trying to convince that person that your allowances and granted conditions are justified.

Please don't think I'm preaching or telling you what to do, who to tell etc etc. I just remember your post about your sister upsetting you about a similar comment and wanted to suggest a way to avoid this again.

I hope you understand this in the manner of which I intended!

iquit

ditto dollparts, people can only get to you with the info you give. If you know their opinions keep cards close to your chest, will probably save lots of heartache and family friction.