the down down l:-( sorry ladies

moneysaver12

I get married next week, we are going aboard, the day after we get back i start uni and we are trying for a baby they are things for me to look forward to after the wedding, main thing iam looking foward to is spending the rest of my life with my htb.

Mme.Hibou

moneysaver12 wrote: »

I get married next week, we are going aboard, the day after we get back i start uni and we are trying for a baby.

You're planning a baby whilst starting a university course? Is it a Ba/Bsc; 3 years?

kazmeister

I had only 9 weeks planning and about a week beforehand I htought what the h3ll am I doing - I hate being the centre of attention. I was fine until I had to walk out in front of everyone and I was so nervous I was shaking because I knew everyone was going to be looking at me, wish I'd had time to take the Kalms or a large Vodka beforehand as loads of people commented on how it showed. As soon as the ceremony was over all I wanted was my bucks fizz after which I settled down nicely.

As for a downer afterwards. Havent had one yet - it took us 12 years to get hitched (engaged 7) and we keep saying to each other, we did it, we only went and did it and collapse into laughter.

Work tomorrow is the downer :rotfl:

Shain

I suggest planning some nice stuff to do in the month after your wedding - maybe a spa day ("home-made" if money's tight), friends round for a glass of wine and a look at the wedding video or pictures, a couple of romantic meals out where you can talk about the day and the future, cooking a meal you ate when you first met or on honeymoon, a night away or a day-trip somewhere that reminds you of the wedding day or honeymoon, etc. Then it won't be such a crash... Oh, and get the wedding pictures printed straight away or you might not get round to it for years! And they're lovely to look at when you feel a bit flat.

We planned our wedding in 9 weeks flat, so to be honest it was nice to have a rest afterwards. We just relaxed and reminded ourselves how lucky we are to have each other (yes, we're still nauseating like that!). Try to relax and enjoy the day, as it's such a pity if you're so caught up in the "stuff" that you don't concentrate on what you're doing and why...

A wedding is one wonderful day. A marriage is many hundreds of days that are as wonderful as you both make them...

Good luck!

TangledMemories_2

I enjoyed all the planning...I enjoyed finding something to organise in the quiet hours at weekends and after work during the week.
Now...we've been married 3 weeks tomorrow...and I've got the blues
To top it all we have to try and survive this month on £200
Trying hard to feel positive...and don't get me wrong...OH has been brilliant...but I just don't feel like there's anything to look forward to now

So...OP....know how you feel...I was scared of feeling like this

rene2b

TangledMemories wrote: »

I enjoyed all the planning...I enjoyed finding something to organise in the quiet hours at weekends and after work during the week.
Now...we've been married 3 weeks tomorrow...and I've got the blues
To top it all we have to try and survive this month on £200
Trying hard to feel positive...and don't get me wrong...OH has been brilliant...but I just don't feel like there's anything to look forward to now

So...OP....know how you feel...I was scared of feeling like this

this is what im worried about :eek:
we have been together 11 years and have 3 children together
and with all the plaining
i can see me on a downer
we dont really have the money for a honeymoon but im thinking i might book a big family holiday(my mum,sister her husband and a few others just to relive the whole day lol)

another friend is going to poland for a wedding and she said they get married on fridays as there weddings go on for 2 days how good is that

Mme.Hibou

rene2b wrote: »

she said they get married on fridays as there weddings go on for 2 days how good is that

That's what my brother did, it was all quite hazy come Monday morning.

Dinah93

I'm only recently engaged but I already can't wait for the planning to be over. To me the exciting part is the marriage, the wedding is just something I have to get through to get to that stage! However having done things in a bit of a jumbled order I can see how it might feel like there are no more stages to look forward to. If you loved the planning so much maybe you'd enjoy a job as a party planner or wedding planner which would keep you on a high?

rene2b

Dinah93 wrote: »

I'm only recently engaged but I already can't wait for the planning to be over. To me the exciting part is the marriage, the wedding is just something I have to get through to get to that stage! However having done things in a bit of a jumbled order I can see how it might feel like there are no more stages to look forward to. If you loved the planning so much maybe you'd enjoy a job as a party planner or wedding planner which would keep you on a high?

lol i wise! i run my own business as it is

clareyPINKfairy

hey rene2b,
what an interesting subject - i hadnt even thought of after wedding things!!

i remember feeling a bit low after my 21st birthday - i had planned lots for my birthday, and afterwards i felt a bit low cos i had nothing to plan and it was all over.

i love planning and always have - i make lists all the time.
i'm starting to plan for my wedding - i've got two years to do it.

I understand what everyone is saying about what you gain from the marriage - a wonderful life with your new partner etc

but at the same time,it probably will be a big come down after my wedding - i love organising and planning, and will be very much hands on with my wedding - making my own stationary, cake, favours etc

i am quite crafty so hopefully i'll find things to do after the wedding to keep me occupied!! or just make lots of babies like another post suggested lol