2nd time around - What do you think?

funandfrugal

Loving reading your posts so would love to know what you think about this totally different idea for me. My OH and I have been together for 5 years. He has 2 kids (18 and 15) I have 2 (14 and 10) I am 40. First time round he had the big greek wedding, I had the big Catholic wedding. We would love to be married but we don't want the 'wedding' Firstly we have no budget. The kids (especially his) may be upset - although they are fantastic kids - it just may be very emotional. We have loads of people that 'should' be invited on both sides. Ideally we would run off to Vegas, get married there and come back and have a party. But the OH is very scared of flying so thats a no no. My best friend and my sister both got married in the last year - both different, both wonderful weddings but not for me. How do you think people would react to this. We invite you out to dinner, just for a get together, why not, friends, family etc, bit of a party in a restaurant. And its actually a wedding - we get married there and then... I have found a fab restaurant locally with a liscence so it's possible. As a guest or friend would you be happy with that? Just an idea at the moment - comments much appreciated. Thanks, Trace x

MustStopSpending23

I think you should do whatever you and your OH feel is right.

Personally, if I was invited out for a meal to then find out I was a guest at your wedding, I would be over the moon! It's such an amazing feeling knowing that you're being part of someone else's special day, and knowing you mean that much to them that you've even been asked.

Best of luck whatever you decide, be sure to update us! x

debs2327

i think its a lovely idea but i think you may get a few ppl who twist about it tho , how about yu go to gretna green to do it there then have the meal and tell everyone youve done it xx

rinroo

If it were a close friend of mine I would be happily surprised and excited, but are you sure everyone will go/turn up?

I would most proberbly (later on)think "why the surprise why not just tell us"...

You could just have a low key intimate no frills wedding....?

paulies_nixie

Well it'd stop everyone trying to get involved :rotfl:

I think for me personally if I was a guest it would be great! I mean what a fab surprise! Might need a few of the extras like music?? make it more surprise?
I think you'd get a lot of "Oh if I'd have known I would have....."

However if his kids might get upset no matter how you do it - they'll still get upset. You might wanna tell them about it first if you do decide to do it this way. You dont want surprised + upset teenagers, they tend to speak before thinking. :eek:

Nixie
xx

kelda_shelton

My Mum's best friend did this - she said it was her 50th birthday party.. just a normal party in the evening... and it was actually their wedding! My Mum called me all excited from the hotel! She said that her friend had just gone missing about ten mins before but noone really noticed cos you know its a party & people mingle.. and then the hotel manager came in and made an announcement - X & Y thankyou for coming to X's 50th Birthday celebrations.. now if you could all please make your way to the lounge, you'll see x & y get married. They had pulled her adult son to the side 15 minutes earlier and told him so he could 'giver her away'!

Her friends new MIL wasnt very happy about the way it had been done but she came round a few weeks later... but then she literlaly fdound out when the manager guy told veryone so maybe you could do what they did with her son and just pull them aside 10mins beforehand!

funandfrugal

Thanks. I'd be thrilled to be a guest at a suprise wedding. I agree telling the kids beforehand is a good idea, will just have to work out how. Has anyone got any ideas? I also think friends and family would guess that we are going to annouce we've got married so would probably turn up, (we have never thrown a party for any reason let alone no reason!!!) all those really important to us would be there. Our parents would be fine about it though I think I will have to share the secret with my Mum. And Sister. And best friend...Oh dear it may not be such a suprise after all, how funny would that be, everyone pretending they don't know!! There will still be plenty to organise. Disco a good idea and something different, silly, fun.

debs2327

could you not do it on someones birthday so you can make that out to be what the meals for , or would it be a problem if you tell them its an engagement party then announce its actualy a wedding that way they`ll come and be dresses for the occasion and it still would be a suprise

funandfrugal

Engagement party - excellent idea,
I was 40 this year. He is 50 in 2 years so there is no Birthday on the horizon but an Engagement Party would be believable and still keep the suprise. Thanks

debs2327

you could tell them you`s are planning a very long engagement lol all of ermmmm a few minutes lol xx

student_advisor

I think it's a fantastic idea and if I were such a guest, I'd be over the moon to be there!

I was going to suggest an engagement party too, but someone beat me to it!

Best of luck and keep us up-to-date