compensation how much?

Teerah

warmhands.coldheart wrote: »

Obviously I don't know the whole circumstances but I think it's bang out of order the missus leaving in such circumstances... shame on her

Exactly, we dont know the circumstances at all so lets not jump to conclusions as to who the wronged party is

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Teerah wrote: »

Exactly, we dont know the circumstances at all so lets not jump to conclusions as to who the wronged party is

thanks teerah,dont think theres any real wronged party here.as I said earlier wife (who is a good wife and mother) just wasnt used to me at home all day everyday,and it came as a heck of a shock to me to.just could not put the days in still wake about 6.am was going for a walk in early mornings but only so many times you can do that.

geri1965_2

Have you had the final medical report done yet? Your solicitors are probably reluctant to give you a figure in case it is disputed by the other side (just because they have admitted liability doesn't mean they won't quarrel over the amount of damages) and they might give you false hope.

It's difficult for anyone on here to advise, without having seen your medical report. Also I think compensation awards are higher in NI (and Scotland) than they are in England.

Sorry, only just realised that this is the NI forum (I use new posts).

blueberrypie

warmhands.coldheart wrote: »

completely sympathise with you mate but re above comment..... What ever happened to; "In sickness And In Health, Till Death Us Do Part" ????

Obviously I don't know the whole circumstances but I think it's bang out of order the missus leaving in such circumstances... shame on her

No disrespect but I wouldn't give her a penny... Sure anything the kids need by all means get it for them but I'd make sure I buy it for them and give it to them... the very fact that she left when you would have needed her most... can't believe that...

As you say, you don't know the whole circumstances.

I have a friend who left her husband after fourteen years of marriage and four children. He had an accident less than two years before she left, and it was the root cause of her leaving. Sounds like she's a heartless cow? Giving up on her marriage? Not at all. After the accident he became violent towards the children and threatening towards her. She spoke to the doctor, who put him on meds which only made it worse. She left to protect herself and her children. That was three years ago - she still says she loves him and would go back in an instant if only his behaviour could return to how it was before the accident.

I have no idea about the circumstances of the break-up of Finish's marriage - but even if I did, it wouldn't be my place to comment. The only people who really know what's going on in a marriage are the two people in it - the rest of us would do better to refrain from passing judgement.

slippyg

Vertebral bodies don't 'bulge' themselves, it's the intervertebral disc spaces which impinge on the spinal cord. Any trauma can result in the nucleus pulplosis pushing through the annulus fibrosis, which in turn, presses against the nerves of the spinal column presenting with pain.

Think of a donut being squashed in between two bricks. (analogy by myself)

Hope this helps.

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slippyg wrote: »

Vertebral bodies don't 'bulge' themselves, it's the intervertebral disc spaces which impinge on the spinal cord. Any trauma can result in the nucleus pulplosis pushing through the annulus fibrosis, which in turn, presses against the nerves of the spinal column presenting with pain.

Think of a donut being squashed in between two bricks. (analogy by myself)

Hope this helps.

wish I could have wrote that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:Danyway thanks for all your comments.wife and I had our ups and downs like all couples but in 17 years I never lifted a hand to her,just not my style.but she told me earlier this year "you were not the same man I married after your accident"and yes Im taking tablets for depression(citralopram)and amitriptyline,think she had a point.

blueberrypie

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wish I could have wrote that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:Danyway thanks for all your comments.wife and I had our ups and downs like all couples but in 17 years I never lifted a hand to her,just not my style.

Just in case I wasn't clear enough: I wasn't suggesting at all that you had - I was offering the example I did to illustrate why it's a bad idea to judge someone for leaving a marriage.

but she told me earlier this year "you were not the same man I married after your accident"and yes Im taking tablets for depression(citralopram)and amitriptyline,think she had a point.

I'm really sorry you and your family are having to go through this. Depression, even on its own, is difficult enough, for everyone involved, and you've got the additional medical issues to deal with too. I hope the compensation process goes quickly and smoothly for you, and I wish you and your family all the best.

slippyg

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I think they are a bit like doctors in this respect.when my late mum was in her last year suffering from cancer the family asked the consultant how long she had to go.his reply was if you think I can tell you that you have been watching to much holby city.he did narrow it down to 6 months and was wrong she died 5 weeks later.think thats why they wont quote on this in case it doesnt come out as they expect and I then give off to them....................

In defence of the Doctor, people tend to think Cancer prognosis is black and white. It's a complex condition with many variables.
Generally, should be able to tell within close parametres if the condition has no other underlying complications.

slippyg

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wish I could have wrote that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:Danyway thanks for all your comments.wife and I had our ups and downs like all couples but in 17 years I never lifted a hand to her,just not my style.but she told me earlier this year "you were not the same man I married after your accident"and yes Im taking tablets for depression(citralopram)and amitriptyline,think she had a point.

Try any form of exercise you think you can handle, it's incredible how much it helps with psychological depression. Pick up a hobby.

Best wishes.