Still blushing at my age!!!

davidscot

Hi
Hope someone out there may be able to help here.
Ive suffered from blushing all my life and as im now in my 40's:rolleyes: I thought that I wouldn't suffer from it as much as I got older but unfortunately i still do.
Decided to do something about it and thought about hypnotherapy but then I was quoted £60 an hour:eek: and they wouldn't say how many sessions I would need.
Has anyone else suffered from the same condition and been cured and how did they go about it.
Thanks for any help with this:beer:
ps If you dont want to discuss this in the open forum then please PM me with any help you can provide

sogs

I also suffer with severe blushing, I have social anxiety and avoid going out has I find it so embarrassing I would be interesting in finding out about what therapy etc is available that will work or help?

thanks

davidscot

sogs wrote: »

I also suffer with severe blushing, I have social anxiety and avoid going out has I find it so embarrassing I would be interesting in finding out about what therapy etc is available that will work or help?

thanks

Thankfully I am not as bad as that as its only in certain situations that blushing gets worse.Even meeting friends in the street can bring it on though.
You have my sympathy regards your condition.

xxvickixx

Even meeting friends in the street can bring it on though.
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This happens to me too, I feel really embarrassed about it, it has got a lot better as i've got older but sometimes out of nowhere in really relaxed situations it happens.

If anyone knows a cure (not too expensive though!) I'd love to hear it.

choille

Get The Idiots Guide To Cognitive Beahvioural Theraphy from the library.

Tell yourself it will pass when it happens & do deep breathing exercises where you concentrate on the exhale & inhale - also stop yourself when you become aware you are doing it & concentrate on the other person - what they are saying. It is a matter of retraining yourself until your focus is off you & on the other person.

Maybe assertiveness training would help. The WEA do really excellent & incredibly cheap - about £3 plus light lunch - google WEA if you fancy a shot at that- a brilliant organisation.

All the best.

Space_donkey

A kid made me blush yesterday by saying I was nicer than his mummy in front of her. You can blush at any age :eek:

choille

Awwwwww that's nice Space donkey, but when it's taking over your life it's no fun.

pinkshoes

I had hypnotherapy to help my blushing, but it only helped partially, so I really wouldn't recommend it.

Oddly I'm a very confident person, but often go bright red when someone talks to me.

The trick is to try and control it. When you feel it happening, you have to dis-engage your mind, and imagine you're in a quiet spot (I usualy go for the secluded beach!) with a cool breeze blowing across your face, and you start to feel the redness draining away.

The more you practice, the quicker you learn to get rid of the blushing. I'm now at the point where I can almost prevent it happening.

Hermia

I got a book called Coping with Blushing by Robert J Edelmann from the library (I have also seen in on sale in chemists). It made a big difference to me in that I went from blushing a lot to just blushing now and again. I am also much better at dealing with the situation when I do blush. I am not a huge believer in self-help books, but the advice and practical exercises in this book really seemed to resonate with me.

davidscot

xxvickixx wrote: »

Even meeting friends in the street can bring it on though.
QUOTE]

This happens to me too, I feel really embarrassed about it, it has got a lot better as i've got older but sometimes out of nowhere in really relaxed situations it happens.

If anyone knows a cure (not too expensive though!) I'd love to hear it.

Exactly the same here,meeting friends, work colleagues etc in various places brings it on. Everything ive read about it says that I notice it more than they do but they must see it.
When they see it I know they are looking so it gets worse etc its a vicious circle

Philippa36

Have you spoken to your GP? There are methods to control blushing, including botox injections! Make an appointment and ask them whats available.