Weekly Flylady Thread 24th August 2009

JennyBee_2

Well it's a start! A couple of things that I don't have to do tomorrow I'm out in the morning anyway at baby songtime (OH finally has a courtesy car whilst his is with the insurance so I have a car again!) so I'll give the rest of the kitchen a blitz when I come home I've just been reminded that my Italian GCSE result is out on Thursday so something else to think about! I'm still not convinced that trying to do that with a 4 month old baby was the most sensible idea but we shall see!

Marvellous Monday ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Two
Scrub the sink clean and polish up those tiled areas.. clean the gunky grout
[STRIKE]degunge the fridge[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed[/STRIKE]
Level Three
Wipe units, kickboards and appliances
Clean the oven and hob
Give the small appliances a wipe over and replace in their comfy homes
Extras

1. Wipe the insides of the unit doors
2. Clean a small appliance.. defuzz the kettle, decrumb the toaster etc
3. Scrub out one cupboard
4. Clean all the filters and door seals

Zoelikesjam

I'm in again this week!
Thanks for all the advice re xOh. At the moment he is trying to contest the non molestation order, I had to made an affidavit stating everything that had happened over the 9 years in order to get protection put into place. He was trying to say everything I put in the statment is lies and there was no need for the injuction so we now habe to go to trial. The trial date is set for 25th sept, and i'm not looking forward to being probed by his solicitor as some of the stuff was horrific. However i have a fantastic DV solicitor and he is confident there wont be any problems. What we dont understand is why he is dragging it all through court. Why he couldnt just accept the order and stay the hell away from me. Its like he wants to cause me grief. I could understand if i left him and he still wanted me, but he left me for a so called friend! AND they now have a baby together! AND it was three soddin years ago !!!!!!. ANYWAYS, when we were in court a few weeks ago to arrange a hearing date he addmitted to some of the stuff and to help things along a little my solicitor advised i agree to some sort of access, so that when it finally does go to court for the child proceedings app, the courts are aware that I am doing something productive and I am at least trying to gain some sort of access for the children, basically i'm not stopping the kids full stop. After long discussions and worries about his temper an access center was sujested, but then poohpooh'd as aparently they can be quite over bearing for the children. My solicitor sugested a trip to a wackywarehouse or something public. Therefore he would be in a public place and if he was to lose his temper there would be some sort of 'protection' sooooooo this was agreed and the date arranged. I came home, talked to the children and told them they would be going to the wacky with daddy......what a stupid mistake. Two days before he was suposed to see them, he followed DH from work and cornered him in a car park. Gave him loads of abuse because he wanted to know WHY he couldnt see the children in his own house. ARGHHHHHHHH:mad: Then he proceeded to threaten me.....Oh the joys.
So yet again, the solicitors refused access, but i feel like its being laid upon my shoulders, i just feel like i am the one stopping the children from having a relationship with their dad. Now deep down i know i know, its not my fault, but how the hell do i explain that to Jaimee? I'm on the verge of a soddin breakdown atm and its not good. I have bi-polar disorder and i can feel a bad low coming on, which is pants. I am just pulling my hair out! Its so frustrating. I'm just hoping that when it goes to court for the CPA's Cafcass and the social worker that gets asigned to us will be able to protect the children in a way that helps them have a relationship with him. Why do these things have to be so frustratingly difficult?
Rant over now!!! But again, thanks for all the sugestions xxx

Marvellous Monday ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Two
Scrub the sink clean and polish up those tiled areas.. [STRIKE]clean the gunky grout[/STRIKE]
degunge the fridge
Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed
Level Three
Wipe units, kickboards and appliances
Clean the oven and hob
Give the small appliances a wipe over and replace in their comfy homes
Extras

1. Wipe the insides of the unit doors
2. Clean a small appliance.. defuzz the kettle, decrumb the toaster etc
3. Scrub out one cupboard
4. Clean all the filters and door seals

hollyh

Big hugs Zoe, i'm sorry your having such a tough time. Stay strong xx

bonsibabe

Aw Zoe - Big hugs to you and the little ones. I realy hope this all works out for you. xxxxxx

Right, have filing box out, and have put whites wash on. Darks are almost dry! It peed down today so didn't get any out, but on the airer in the bathroom with the window open, they dried quite quick so their in the TD for the last half hour!

After whites go on airer, I'm off to my bedland, hoping i get some sleep!!!!!

Thanks Rosepink, I feel a little better about the car, its almost half of our debts and it would effectively be wiped! So thats 1 sorted, 1 almost sorted and 2 left to sort out! I feel quite positive that we can get through this now. Just gotta get the council to sort out the houseing benefit as they calculated it on the wrong amounts so waiting for them to recalculate it! As usual they are taking their blooming time!

Rosepink - thats brilliant news about the freezer!!! And great that the lady is giving it in payment for hubby helping her! When we first got married, we were given a small fridge and freezer in payment for babysitting we had done for one of hubby's bosses. And a WM & TD was given to us by my boss who had just moved in to a new house! It was a great help to us! When we replaced them we gave them to people that needed them as they were in great nick!

Right am off to bed, see you all in the morning xxxx

DeniseNZ

madcatgirl - I disappear regularly and never seem to be able to complete a whole week . . . but I do come back and keep trying again
zoe - I'm so sorry for all you and the kids are having to deal with.


I feel very good about the weekend - got alot of business stuff caught up on; got personal finances sorted and put an extra dollop on mortgage - yay me!; OH made me a vegie garden (pics on FB )

I've got another full week of work, but will hopefully get through it with my sanity intact. I have shortened the list!!!

Marvellous Monday ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Two
degunge the fridge
Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed
Level Three
Wipe units, kickboards and appliances

Denises to dos:
Walk dogs - DONE
Washing hung out - DONE
Chicken out for dinner - DONE
Work 9-4
Try and sort out MILs new TV - DONE
Buy doggie biscuits
Buy new phone charger DONE
Sort dinner
Belly dancing

DeniseNZ

Argh . . . I forgot the ironing . . .

jinky67

froddington wrote: »

Notso - welcome (to the madhouse!!) You sound like you'll fit in well I am an expert at procrastinating Well done on getting started this week :T

Welcome Notso :jI love the name BTW;)
errrrrrm so am I:o:o:o:rotfl::rotfl:

zoelikesjam wrote: »

I'm in again this week!
Thanks for all the advice re xOh. At the moment he is trying to contest the non molestation order, I had to made an affidavit stating everything that had happened over the 9 years in order to get protection put into place. He was trying to say everything I put in the statment is lies and there was no need for the injuction so we now habe to go to trial. The trial date is set for 25th sept, and i'm not looking forward to being probed by his solicitor as some of the stuff was horrific. However i have a fantastic DV solicitor and he is confident there wont be any problems. What we dont understand is why he is dragging it all through court. Why he couldnt just accept the order and stay the hell away from me. Its like he wants to cause me grief. I could understand if i left him and he still wanted me, but he left me for a so called friend! AND they now have a baby together! AND it was three soddin years ago !!!!!!. ANYWAYS, when we were in court a few weeks ago to arrange a hearing date he addmitted to some of the stuff and to help things along a little my solicitor advised i agree to some sort of access, so that when it finally does go to court for the child proceedings app, the courts are aware that I am doing something productive and I am at least trying to gain some sort of access for the children, basically i'm not stopping the kids full stop. After long discussions and worries about his temper an access center was sujested, but then poohpooh'd as aparently they can be quite over bearing for the children. My solicitor sugested a trip to a wackywarehouse or something public. Therefore he would be in a public place and if he was to lose his temper there would be some sort of 'protection' sooooooo this was agreed and the date arranged. I came home, talked to the children and told them they would be going to the wacky with daddy......what a stupid mistake. Two days before he was suposed to see them, he followed DH from work and cornered him in a car park. Gave him loads of abuse because he wanted to know WHY he couldnt see the children in his own house. ARGHHHHHHHH:mad: Then he proceeded to threaten me.....Oh the joys.
So yet again, the solicitors refused access, but i feel like its being laid upon my shoulders, i just feel like i am the one stopping the children from having a relationship with their dad. Now deep down i know i know, its not my fault, but how the hell do i explain that to Jaimee? I'm on the verge of a soddin breakdown atm and its not good. I have bi-polar disorder and i can feel a bad low coming on, which is pants. I am just pulling my hair out! Its so frustrating. I'm just hoping that when it goes to court for the CPA's Cafcass and the social worker that gets asigned to us will be able to protect the children in a way that helps them have a relationship with him. Why do these things have to be so frustratingly difficult?
Rant over now!!! But again, thanks for all the sugestions xxx

That sounds like a horrible situation:grouphug::grouphug:You must try not to feel guilty though, HE is the one doing this:cool: At the end of the day, the way I see it, you must think about YOURSELF and your mental as well as that of the kids, and if it is causing you this much stress, that you feel an "episode" coming on maybe its best to make a clean break NOW:cool:

Just you remember we are all here for you to off load on, and supply tea and biscuits:D:kisses3:





I have had the most horrendous nights sleep ever:rolleyes: had a weird dream about lions outside my front door:eek: then spent the rest of the night thinking I was texting Daz and kept waking up to answer him back. Of course I wasnt actually doing this, as i found out this morning:o:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:so I am very very tired, I doubt I will last till the kids go to school even:o

I ended up crying down the phone last night as well:( I do hope this week goes much better than last, I think I will crack up if this goes on:o:cool:


So there may not be much flying done today after all:rolleyes::mad:

Bitsy_Beans

Marvellous Monday ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
[STRIKE]
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor
[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Scrub the sink clean and polish up those tiled areas.. clean the gunky grout[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]degunge the fridge [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]
Wipe units, kickboards and appliances
Clean the oven and hob
Give the small appliances a wipe over and replace in their comfy homes
[/STRIKE]




Extras

1. [STRIKE]Kill the evil weevils[/STRIKE]

I am in this week
Have changed the extra as I have been invaded by evil flour weevils for last few weeks and I am struggling to kill them. Going to have a good blitz in ALL (eek!) the cupboards and get rid of them for good. There's going to be a massacre in my house today


Just the weevils left now woo hoo!

Someone stick a fork in me........I'm done And ruddy knackered too.

juliejim

Hugs jinky - how old are your kids?

Hugs for you too zoe - if you want some company one afternoon while the kids are off give me a shout.

I went blackberry picking yesterday and apparently my mum's coming round about 10 to go blackberry picking with the kids so I'll probably be going again unless I stay here while they go.

So it's the kitchen today - I'll see how I get on.

Have a good day all

Jue

TAG

Morning Gang!!:hello:

I am still flying, of sorts.......honest I am..........just not finding the time to post.

Still in the throws of decorating the bathroom :rolleyes: Had a few set backs, as in having to wait for plaster to dry (one wall took nearly a week). Plus Little Bruv has been very busy hay making this last week and doing other work related stuff. Bless him. He's been doing all that plus an 80 mile round trip each time he comes over to do the bathroom. Anyway, the back wall is now fully tiled. I just need to grout today and then I'm going to start tiling the shower wall. Hoping to have it all done in the next week or two. Fingers crossed.

In the meantime I really should get back on the fly wagon properly ish. Ready for when the kids go back to school next week. :j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j
Not that I'm looking forward to it you understand!!!!!

So I shall post todays list and see how I get on -

Marvellous Monday ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Two
Scrub the sink clean and polish up those tiled areas.. clean the gunky grout
degunge the fridge
Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed
Level Three
Wipe units, kickboards and appliances
Clean the oven and hob
Give the small appliances a wipe over and replace in their comfy homes
Extras

1. Wipe the insides of the unit doors
2. Clean a small appliance.. defuzz the kettle, decrumb the toaster etc
3. Scrub out one cupboard
4. Clean all the filters and door seals