loosing weight :(

potsofmoney_(I_wish)

"im depserate to get thin and all sorts of stupid ideas pop into my head to how i can do it. i dont want to sound like im full of excuses either. i just really hate food and wish i could just eat nothing at all, cause once i start i feel that i cant stop, i do contribute some of my weight issues to my early childhood and to the fact its always been a BIG issue to my mom."

Hey there,
Like you I have 3 small children one 5 and twins who are 3. Like you my partner works alot, I work full time in a stressful job (I love it though) and I study. I also have gained about 2 stone since having kids and find it very difficult to get rid of it sensibly.

Because I am wary how personally appealing some of the more unhealthy routes to weight loss are, due to past behaviour and the determination not to ever influence my kids in an unhealthy relationship with food . I find it a daily battle just to not overeat.

I do focus on feeling good, I exercise my dog, she is my me time, I always try and make sure I look nice, nails done,( I just make sure they're manicured and look nice. Hair nice and so on as time allows and my aim is to try and boost my self esteem in these little ways as I know that if I start beating myself up I eat even more. I'm also very aware of what not to have in the house foodwise, which is difficult with kids and my love of baking.

You will get there, but take little steps even though it is hard, try and like yourself a bit more and find other things to do rather than eat. I do xstitch at night as you can't eat and do that. Sadly there is not a magic wand but there will be something that works for you. I hope I don't sound like Oprah as it is not my intention, it's just that I have had a battle with food since my childhood and my mother tries bless her but doesn't help (she hates having an overweight daughter).

My heart goes out to anyone with a similer weight problem, I do hope you find your way, I know I'm still looking for mine.

HTH

moo842

LISSILEIGH wrote: »

i know some of you will recognise what i am going to say and others will probbaly think 'you silly fat cow just stop eating' but i need help!

i know this sounds a cliche but i have tried many of the diets out there some with little sucess and some with non.

I am mum of 3 (who where all born within 4 years) im only 28 but look and feel disgusting.

im currently working and have just finished some studies and will hopefully get on my degree for this sept. my husband works really early in morning and doesnt come home till 6-7pm at which point i am trying to feed the children and get them sorted for bed and school.

im also starting a 2nd job sept which luckily i have family help with having the children after school and nursery. i wont finish til 6.

im depserate to get thin and all sorts of stupid ideas pop into my head to how i can do it. i dont want to sound like im full of excuses either. i just really hate food and wish i could just eat nothing at all, cause once i start i feel that i cant stop, i do contribute some of my weight issues to my early childhood and to the fact its always been a BIG issue to my mom.

i am slowly creeping into a size 18, and feel like i have no control over myself and my eating habits. after i eat anything i hate myself. i cant see the light at the end of the tunnel and definatley cant imaging me ever being slim and getting there.


does anyone have any advice

I too have 3 young children, and am just 29. This new year i realised that i couldn't continue the way i was, i too was into a size 18.
So on the 3rd Jan i jpoined weight watchers, i am obsessive with food so i find the weighing and measuring helps, and i write down everything i eat, even if it was naughty.
I am now a size 12 bottom and a size 8 top after loosing nearly three stone. I now find eating smaller portions easy so i guess my stomach has shrunk, it's been quite easy for me because it fits in with the way i am with food, but i guess thats the key, you need to find what is best for you.;)

Bitsy_Beans

I would agree with small steps. You cannot change things overnight and will only result in feeling like a failure.
I go with the Paul McKenna approach, its working slowly but like you I have young kids (2 under 4) and eating slowly etc etc is REALLY hard to do BUT there is no way I could face another diet and I have to accept that unless I do things differently I am going to continue with the same results.

Bottom line is food is not good or bad. It's just food. It's your relationship to it thats causing the problems. You sound like you have a very mixed up relationship to it, you need it in order to survive but you loathe it. Your eating is too tied to your emotions and tackle that you'll be half way there.
would consider seeing a professional to help you with the emotional side regarding the issues from your childhood?

I too tend to put my needs at the end of the queue, kids come first, husband, housework and with very little "me" time I don't get chance to indulge myself and do the things to support my own weightloss. By the time I have chance at 9pm at night I am too tired to do anything but what I have to accept that this is the only time I have so I'd better use it or lose it. I'd love to change loads of things about me overnight but I think I am essentially lazy in a lot of respects I'd like the results of change but fail to put the effort in. Really change will only happen if you make the effort.

Good luck and there are lots of threads on here covering the various diets if you need more support.