buttonhole/mother in law issues

angelkez

just want a bit of advice if i'm turning into a bridezilla or if my future MIL is being slightly unreasonable.

ok so i'm getting married on the 26th September and the flowers are all organised or so i thought, i'm having hot pink gerberas as my wedding flowers so i've ordered pink gerbera buttonholes which i thought would be lovely however my MIL to be has now informed me that she has bought a lilac and white dress and therefore wants a lilac buttonhole!!!

i don't know what to do as i really don't want to upset her but i think it'll look really weird if she's the only person with a different flower...

am i just being nuts or is she being slightly unreasonable?

Violetta_2

Nope you are not being unreasonable at all pink will look fine with lilac, tell her when they turn up you couldn't change the order or something , smiling sweetly, she isn't allowed to have a go at you on your wedding day.
My MIL 2B was going to have a pink plastic 1 her mil made for something, 2 days ago she said it didn't match so would have to make another 1 ( she has a vast collection of horrid plastic flowers , nb not the lovely artificial ones) so I said do you want a fresh 1 it will be no problem, she hummed & hawed for 2 days before saying yes please, it's no problem as my brother & sister in law don't want the ones I ordered them as they think they will injure their 1 yr old. (wonder if I'll have to remove the knives & forks from their table too just in case lol)

MustStopSpending23

I definitely don't think you're being unreasonable, lilac isn't part of your colour scheme so why would you order any in that colour. Just because she's bought that coloured dress, Gggggrrrrr I'd be angry. As you say, why should she be any different to your other guests?

Personally, I would be honest with her and say that you're not going to order a seperate one just for her. (I would word it slightly nicer though!). She should understand, and if she doesn't then she's just being a pain in the a*s!!

angelkez

the problem i have is if i refuse to buy her one i know for a fact she'll get her own hideous one :mad:

Claire2831

You could always just say sure no problem, happy to order you a different flower and then just happen to oops, forget. Either that or say you have ordered her a different one and then blame the flower company when they only deliver the hot pink flowers.

sunshinejoclaire

I ordered buttons holes that matched the outfits the mums had.

BTW - Hot Pink Gerberas? Brilliant choice - thats was what we had (albeit silk ones) http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=416158&l=df1065f3c6&id=286200314 if you want a lookie

angelkez

your photos are gorgeous sunshine

i think i'm gonna have to give in and get her a lilac one

sunshinejoclaire

Thanks I can't stop looking at them almost three months on

I would - you won't notice it on the pictures I assure you! If it avoids an argument for somthing that minor I would give in TBH.

If you clicked all the way trhough those pics, the woman in red is my Mum and she has a totally different sort of button hole (pink would never have gone lol)

Minxy_Bella

I had hot pink gerberas as my main theme but knew that they would clash horribly with my mum's orange (don't get me started) and my MIL's purple outfits, so I got cream roses for all of the button holes and corsages and they blended really nicely with the gerberas.

Good luck!

underlay_guru

Sound like a right load of awkwards

It's your wedding...If anyone at my wedding was moaning to me about colour of their flower I'd tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine. If it doesn't match with something - tough nuts. You've got enough to worry about on your own wedding day than having a load of fussies complaining about trivial little things!!

Little_Vics

I think you need to decide what's more important in the long run - we caved in to a lot of pressure from others on our wedding day but don't regret it one bit because everyone had a crackingly good time, there were no arguments and the most important thing is that we got married!!