Hair cut from hell!

myrnahaz

What is it about me that makes hairdressers completely ignore my requests when I go for a hair cut? I always tell the stylist that I want the length to be somewhere between shoulder and jaw, and I want it to be layered and flicking-up at the ends in a scruffy kind of way, and definitely not a turned-under bob.

I know that this scruffy look suits me, and once or twice they get it spot-on (then they leave the salon and I never see them again) but usually I end up with a straight bob - which makes me avoid the hairdressers like the plague because I get so depressed afterwards (my hair is wavy, lightweight and dry, so it doesn't 'do' a bob). Argggghh!!
Yesterday, I bit the bullet, and had an appointment with a 'senior stylist'. She checked my hair type whilst it was dry (which increased my confidence no end) and asked what I'd like. I repeated my mantra 'definitely not a bob, I don't mind going shorter, but I don't want to have it cropped short'. I even said I liked Lulu's hair (I don't think she knew who Lulu was).
Well, I don't have a bob, but I don't have much hair left, either. I have a 1980's short crop - fluffy on top and tapered into my neck! I couldn't even stop her once she'd started because her first cut was drastically short.

Why don't they listen? I'd already decided that I'd splash out on the local whizz-kid, award-winning (very expensive) hairdresser if last night's attempt turned into another bob, but now I'll have to wait until Christmas so I have enough hair to style.
I can't even ask you all for advice because I'm stuck until it grows (fortunately, it grows quickly).
Another reason for my rant is that I'm going to a wedding in 3 weeks, and I've lost a stone in weight and was feeling really pleased with how I looked - but now I'm going to look like Hayley in Coronation street in all the photos. And I feel so fed up that my face is set in a saggy, frowning expression (maybe a smile would make me look better but I can't find it in me).

My DH said I could always put a bag on my head (I might just divorce him for that), and my daughter said 'you look exactly like Granny' (adoption for her!).

Anyone got a wig to lend me?

Enfieldian

When using a new stylist or new hairdresser it would be wise to take a photo in with you, either of yourself when you had the style that you want or one from a magazine.

pulliptears

My hairdresser knows how paranoid I am about haircuts, when she trims my long hair she takes off half an inch at a time and keeps asking "more?" until I'm happy lol

Stems from my childhood.... I had long thick hair to the back of my knees. By the time I was 11 I was suffering headaches most of the time and the Dr's concluded it was the weight of my hair and it would perhaps be better to loose some of the length. Ok, not a problem, mid back would be fine. Until my lovely Mum took me in and had the lot chopped Paige boy style. To say I cried was an understatement. I sobbed for a week and since that fateful day I've always chosen my hairdressers very carefully lol

foxy-roxy

Yes i have the same problem with hairdressers, to the point that i only get my highlights done now and do not let them come any where near me with there scissor happy hands :mad:
Once i wanted the opposite to you, i wanted a nice straight bob, longer at the front, and got heavy layers and backcombed hair it was horrendous and i had to pay out £250 to get hair extensions whilst it grew out.
Now if i do get a cut i just ask for a TRIM!!
Luckily like /you my hair grows fast, thank god :T

trevormax

best thing about being a guy, nice simple hair cut, costs at most a tenner and the style lasts for decades lol

timidtoad

Last time i went to the hairdressers she said would you like something on before you go . mmm i said put a pair of nickers on my head because youve made me lokk like a ????

stationaryace

aww poor thing having a hair cut you don't like sucks, especially when you have to wait for it to grow before you can 'fix' it. have you thought about hair extensions or something for the wedding- i think you can get fairly cheap ones that clip in somehow. i've never tried them myself but had a colleague who would rearrange them in the locker room after every 8 hour shift. don't know how much hair you need to attach them to.

if it was me i'd probably go a little nuts and dye it crazy colours, being short means it grows out quickly if you change your mind i've given up trying to find a hairdresser that i like as everytime i find one she gets pregnant (4 and counting!) or moves to the other side of the country. now just have to convince a friend to do a course in cutting hair, makes sure she stays near-ish by and voila, problem solved.

Freddie_Snowbits

Had a friend who went to Barbers for years with his son, they charged him £8 and £3.50. When his son went to University, he went on his own and when the cut was over, he handed over the £8 . He was amazed when the Barber said it was only £3.50!

Mind you, he has a large parting

myrnahaz

The girl who scalped me actually raved on that she was so tuned-in to her clients' wishes that she was almost phychic (psychotic, more like).

Stationaryrace, I've just come back from buying hair dye - not a funky colour but one that's much darker than usual; I've been dying it light brown (when I HAD hair, I mean) because I'd started looking witch-like when I dyed it my natural dark brown).
I also bought hair gel, long, dangly earrings and bright lipstick. I might buy some high heeled boots and skinny leg jeans and pretend I've had a makeover.

My toddler grandson will be petrified at the trollop his Granny has turned into, lol!

dancingdoll

They can correct it for you there and then with extensions. If they've cut it too short I'd certainly make sure they put in extensions free of charge. You could try ringing them and say you didn't really get a proper look till you got home.

If not, get some clip in extensions - they'll work a treat!

System

I'lll second what someone else said there, take in a picture for you, its much easier for them to work from (and at the end you can say "but it should look like THIIIIIISSS")