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Boyfriend moving in.

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  • Proably different solutions suit different circumstances and generations. If people can arrange together what will happen should anything happen, in an atmosphere of affection and trust then they both win, and can be secure in their future together whatever it might bring.
    Younger peoples' relationships today are a bit more transient than those of 30/40 years ago, and how they deal with them reflects the socioeconomic culture they live in. We can't put old wine in new bottles, and I for one wouldn't go back to how relationships were transacted 30/40 years ago.
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    margaretclare Posts: 10,789 Forumite
    Proably different solutions suit different circumstances and generations. If people can arrange together what will happen should anything happen, in an atmosphere of affection and trust then they both win, and can be secure in their future together whatever it might bring.

    Yes, I realise that we've both been very fortunate. There was a huge element of risk on both sides, especially as he had jumped 'from frying-pan to fire' once before! It has all worked out extremely well.
    I for one wouldn't go back to how relationships were transacted 30/40 years ago.

    Nor would I! I think I must have been ahead of my time..

    However, it does surprise me that people are able to talk so glibly about someone moving in with them and yet there isn't this element of trust. Why move in? As mountainofdebt says, there are those who will move in quite cynically with the intention of getting as much as they can financially.

    Now, this idea is not new. I've read about it in 18th and 19th century novels, and probably it has existed since the dawn of time. What perhaps is new is the passion that people have for 'getting on to the housing ladder' by whatever means, and if that involves pretending an affection and commitment that they don't feel, then so be it.

    Margaret Clare
    [FONT=Times New Roman, serif]Æ[/FONT]r ic wisdom funde, [FONT=Times New Roman, serif]æ[/FONT]r wear[FONT=Times New Roman, serif]ð[/FONT] ic eald.
    Before I found wisdom, I became old.
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