My mother said......

chewy62

My Mum always made us ay please and thank-you everytime anyone did anything for us, which we still do. I ahve noticed that my 3 year old son is also very polite, and even though he can be a real tearaway sometimes, he always says please and thank-you, probably as he sees me doing it.
She also made any guests to our house feel welcome with a cuppa, biccies or something stronger!(my in-laws don't do this which annoys me!)

doddsy

''She was quite an old-fashioned lady in a lot of ways but she was respected by her friends and neighbours for her honesty, and would help anyone if she could. She was never rich in a monatery way , but I think she found her pleasures in taking care of her husband and children.That was what she believed she was put on this earth for .It sounds very odd by today's standards but that was how she was and I wouldn't have changed her at all. She has been dead for over fifty years and I still miss her, and her soft Langside Glasgow accent.
I hope she would have been pleased at how her 'bairns ' turned out.She was just my Mum''
JackieO - if I am remembered half so well by my children I will have done a good job, thank you.

My mum says 'Slow and steady wins the race!'

thriftlady_2

My mum gave me a useful piece of advice regarding bringing up children.She said 'never ask them what they want for tea,give them a choice between two things - boiled egg or scrambled'.

She applied this to all sorts of choices.It goes a long way to avoiding tantrums.If you give small children an unlimited choice they just get overwhelmed and can't decide and tears invariably follow.Narrow it down, then they have some control over their lives but within your constraints.

moggins

Unfortunately my mother never taught me anything useful apart from how not to live my life She was always at work and too tired afterwards to either attempt to cook or teach me anything.

I guess that's what made me want to stay at home with my children.

Hermia

Sweet_Pea wrote:

My mum also taught me not to buy anything on credit - "In our day, if you hadn't got the money for it you couldn't buy it" I heard time and time again, but OH and I have followed this and have saved for what we wanted.

This is not always practical though. I had to take out a loan to buy my first car because you really need a car for my profession. When I got my first professional job it quickly became obvious that I couldn't do it without a car, but I couldn't wait to save up for a car so it had to be a loan!

I am generally really good with money though and I got that off my parents. Growing up in a relatively poor family was good in my opinion 'cause it does show you that it is possible to live with very little. I certainly appreciate luxuries more than friends who have always had a good lifestyle. My mum also taught me the importance of not relying on men when it came to managing money. I am shocked at how many married 20/30-something friends I have who just leave everything to men. I remember asking a couple of married friends whether they had a savings account or a pension and they just looked at me like I was mad! Bearing in mind the divorce rate and the fact that men do tend to die before women I don't understand why they assume they will still be married and supported by a man when they are elderly.