Alcohol self help thread II

crystaltipps74

Thanks for the suggestions. I'll keep on with the persuasion and hopefully the counsellor will help.

Hay_2

I tried to read all the posts but there were too many:o
Can I ask?What if you know you "should" stop drinking but don't want to?

jayne.doe

Hay it comes down to choice. You can either stop drinking or continue simple as.... Although we all know how hard it is to stop. Nevertheless it comes down to what you want to do in life. People can advise you offer support only you can choose to take them up on it:)

Hay_2

Ok so to take it further...although I feel very exposed in my real username:o
What if you tried not to drink but by 6pm each night hadn't come up with a more appealing alternative ?

jayne.doe

Yeh i know how hard that one is:) My time is 5pm i am constantly looking for the more "appealing alternative" at that time. I honestly think on this board you will find most people that are or were. Beer once told me make yourself busy do anything but do something. That helped. Lewt/Habibi will tell you try an AA meeting or Al-Anon, which has worked for them. Al will tell you try some chocolate. There is no right answer only you can find what works for you. I dont know your circumstances or how much you drink you could be a habitual drinker or an alcoholic ??? I dont mean to sound vague but its difficult:o

jayne.doe

If you think YOU are drinking to much then you need help. Personally i would seek advice try al-anon
https://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

yeh guys i have said it:)

lewt

alright jayne how are you? long time no see...... ive made a nice few quid this week end on the virgin casnio/ quidco offer so im happy. mrs is back tomorrow. si the flats nice and half clean too.

hay: "if you know you shoould stop drinking but dont want to?"
it's a tough one mate. i would not have been able to stop drinking if i didnt want to. you may be different. why not try speaking to someone who can help you decide? i cant cut down i have to have none. al knows about the councilling side of things better than me as it worked for him and not for me.

why not try going to an AA meeting? there will be people there that can relate to how your feeling.

Back to my experince i had to have had enough to stop or even want to. why would i stop if things werwe ok and i was not living in a mental prison.
as i sadi go to an AA meeting just one listen to the similaters and if your ready ask for help if not go back when your ready...

Jayne dont wanna pick your post to bits:o but just so you know al anon is for the familys of drinkers. the founder of AA's mrs set it up. AA's for us lot;)

Ps. nice to see you back!

jayne.doe

Hi Lewt thanks I know that about al-anon but personally i would prefer to have a chat with them before i went straight to AA. I know that sounds strange but i personally dont want to think i would be an alcoholic straight away. I dont know apart from them who else to ask:) Nice to see you back Lewt glad the flat is half clean:o

lewt

you can talk to me any time jayne ask in pm and ill give you my number.

the only require ment for AA is a derise to stop drinking you dont have to be an alcoholic. step chat is good jayne. im only saying as al anon would be able to help if you were concerned about a partners drining. im not sure they would know what to say, i may be wrong though.

lewt

just wondering weather to drink some jucie in the fridge thats been there a week it says drink in 5 days of opening. you dont think it could have fermented do you?