Alcohol self help thread II

beer2006

6 months, thats terrible, mind you, I don't really have any sympathy tbh. I would never drive when drunk, as harrie says, what if she had killed someone.

So by the sounds of it, she always drove drunk? Is this when she has her daughter in the car?
Or is she in charge of her daughter all the time while she's drinking, if she is, imagine, if she could crash her car, what she could do (by accident) to her daughter.

xmaslolly76

Do you mea abuse of her side of the family, i'm used to having slanging matches with my mom#1 she still to this day swears she has no problem. She is very violent as well we have come to blows many times and im the calm one in the family. I do have a feeling though that her mom and dad will be taking control of the situation now after talking to them yesterday they new she had a problem but jut ignored it like her OH did but if she is going to start doing things like this she is putting there grandchild in danger and she is there world after there son died.

xmaslolly76

As far as i can make out she never has anyone in the car with her she tends to drink on her way home form work as i say she would grab a bottle from the shop around the corner drink it then go home. But if she was in such a state that she didnt know who she was she could have easily made her daughter get in the car and not realise what she was doing hence the concern from the grandparents

beer2006

No I meant abuse from her.......however it may be different now, this may make her think, it may make her drink more, you just can't tell.

her mum and dad can only take control of the situation, if they either, have her under control, which it doesn't sound like, or she wants help and only time will tell on that one.

beer2006

xmaslolly76 wrote:

As far as i can make out she never has anyone in the car with her she tends to drink on her way home form work as i say she would grab a bottle from the shop around the corner drink it then go home. But if she was in such a state that she didnt know who she was she could have easily made her daughter get in the car and not realise what she was doing hence the concern from the grandparents

Right for me thats too much, knowingly drinking then driving all the time is not an accident, its more than stupid. Its desperate.
Its not a question of if she has her daughter in the car anymore, I thought it was a one off.
Personally and you may think this is harsh, but is she is knowingly drinking a bottle then driving home everyday, she is in no state to be looking after a child.

Sounds to me like the parents care more about the grandchild than their daughter. Hope I'm wrong about that.

xmaslolly76

beer2006 wrote:

No I meant abuse from her.......however it may be different now, this may make her think, it may make her drink more, you just can't tell.

her mum and dad can only take control of the situation, if they either, have her under control, which it doesn't sound like, or she wants help and only time will tell on that one.

Well they are taking steps her oh has gone so they have moved her in with them she has not put up a fight about it yet they have no car so she will not have access to one and they have taken all her cards and cash off her for the time being. I would have thought that she has now addmitted the problem she has otherwise she would be kicking up a fuss about what her parents are doing. But not having spoken to her myself i dont now for sure. Weather they are doing the right thing only they and my cousin now time will tell i suppose. I think i may be best to stay out of the way for while but let her know i am there if she needs me ?

xmaslolly76

I dont think it is harsh at all beer i happen to agree with you but this only came to light yesterday i dont think even her parents knew what she was doing her OH was keeping it all to himself and he mainly took care of there daughter

micheleen

xmaslolly76 wrote:

Well they are taking steps her oh has gone so they have moved her in with them she has not put up a fight about it yet they have no car so she will not have access to one and they have taken all her cards and cash off her for the time being. I would have thought that she has now addmitted the problem she has otherwise she would be kicking up a fuss about what her parents are doing. But not having spoken to her myself i dont now for sure. Weather they are doing the right thing only they and my cousin now time will tell i suppose. I think i may be best to stay out of the way for while but let her know i am there if she needs me ?

It may be worth having some innocuous contact with her, but it's your call really.
As for access to a car or not it should be irrelevant. A condition of police bail will be that she doesn't drive between now and trial. If she breaks that she'll be held in custody till the trial.

harrie_2

micheleen wrote:

Having been good is no excuse shirl but at least no spirits.

dont slap me being good worked before think i lost my touch:p

you still good babes you got a new life now shirl gets a bit lonley:o

xmaslolly76

Harrie if being good doesnt work anymore you will need to find new ways to be naughty wink wink nudge nudge :-)