lilmissmups moving on and hopefully upwards diary!

Shoe_Gal

I know I've said it before but I really think you should avoid seeing hom until you are stronger emotionally - he is messing with your head, and he knows it :mad:

lilmissmup

I don't plan on seeing him again for a long time, no idea when or if it will happen again. In such a depressed mood again today and had a crap nights sleep again because of it.

I don't think he is messing with my head really, its me doing the texting, ringing and asking him to see me, i am the one messing with my head.

Hes still very certain about us not getting back together and has said he doesn't want to see me if its hurting me and thats also why he hasn't text me much as people have told him its the kindest thing to do.

Fire_Fox

lilmissmup wrote: »

Just wanna know why i am such a fool and keep hurting myself.

I have come to the conclusion over the years that love is a form of addiction: if you have ever taken recreational drugs on a regular basis you will know there are major parallels. Addictions can be positive or negative depending on how they affect your life - so getting a high from going to the gym four times a week for an hour is great; being compelled to arise at 4am to clean your house for three hours before work is not healthy.

Don't ask for my theories on disorders of mental health as that's way scarier!

lilmissmup

I totally agree with you on the addiction thing and parallel to drugs.

I am just on a major come down. :rolleyes:

I popped into town today and picked up my new glasses so part of new me is here.

Getting hair cut in couple weeks, just before i head down to London for weekend so i look good down there.

Oh and i cashed in my cheque from mutualpoints i claimed last month, £20, took me about a year and half to get but did it from just clicking on email ads so can't complain.

Fire_Fox

Ooooh you can do the whole sexy secretary thing! :T

lilmissmup

LOL, been wearing glasses over 20 years now, i am as blind as bat without them.

Sexy is not a word that goes with me either

Shoe_Gal

lilmissmup wrote: »

Sexy is not a word that goes with me either

I'm sure it could be

How are you feeling today - a bit more positive hopefully? :A

Fire_Fox

lilmissmup wrote: »

LOL, been wearing glasses over 20 years now, i am as blind as bat without them.

Sexy is not a word that goes with me either

Now that is not the attitude! Sounds like a confidence crisis that goes with having been in a nice safe long-term relationship. If you don't feel sexy fake it, men think with their *ahem* anyway.

Have you got good boobs? Then you want a well fitting bra and a plunging top. Nothing slutty or you will feel uncomfortable, subtle. Good bum? Pencil skirt and heels. Slim waist? Anything belted and pulled in. Even jeans can look hot if you buy them extra long and wear with heels and a feminine top.

Loads of smoky eye make up and lip gloss, any hairdo that hasn't had the life ironed out if it. Then smile, giggle and generally look like you are having fun!

Shoe_Gal

Fab advice Fire Fox

If you don't feel it - fake it anyway, it works every time And you'll be surprised how good some harmless flirting can make you feel - doesn't have to go anywhere, just a bit of fun :rolleyes:

doodledo_2

Fire Fox - I am loving your advice

I must admit I am a bit like lilmiss, being in a safe relationship for so long I lost my way, even possibly let myself go.

I know make much more of myself, and a feel a little "ahem" sexy when I go out.

I recently had a liaison with a man (lol) and he kept saying how sexy i was. I nearly fell over :rotfl: