The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

glasgowgirl

jo1972 wrote: »

Hugs to you GG (((())))

You know what though, the grass always looks greener.

My best mate that I've known since we were 11 is same age as me 37, she did get married but now divorced, she has MILLIONS of friends and is out most nights in the week to all manner of exciting places, I can't tell you what her job is incase she recognises herself on here then would know I'm posting on this thread, but she has a job in the limelight, constantly brushing shoulders with the stars, earns shed loads of money, owns outright the most amazing house. I told her one day that I was so jealous of her lifestyle and things that she can do and does. She told me that she was jealous of me, school office person, never leaves the house, normal life. Just shows you really that we are all envious of other people's lives and maybe, just maybe you're old friend is not as happy as they have made out

Thanks Jo.
Most of the time I'm happy with my life. It's weird though how important it is for me to be perceived as "successful" - and I feel that for society that's marriage and kids.
Think that's part of my drive to drink. Like the real me - pretty shy, quiet - isn't good enough. Need to drink to be confident/bubbly/put on an act and make out like you're living the perfect life.
Hmmmmm - I need therapy!
xx

Pippilongstocking

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Aaaaaaaaaaaargh, I'm struggling tonight.

Met someone I used to know, but hadn't seen in years. She's married and pregnant and I'm, well, doing the same old same old.

Finding it all quite depressing - live alone, no partner, no chance of kids as far as I can see, time running out. Any fertility that's likely to last over 40 probably been killed by all the booze I've drunk.

Hmmmm....self-pitying huh? UM NO........

Could really go a litre of red. But won't - determined not to go out.:D

Thanks for listening.
xx

GG massive hugs - this may or may not help..............GG I live alone, a part time partner 300+ miles away who I might see for one night every 4-6 weeks - my kids are ace but are lovely and so self sufficent they do their own thing cos I have had to work so much. I am as lonely as hell and really do know where you are coming from

My life is complicated by EX husband who live in France, and his evil skinny cow new wife and a tribe of kids, some mine, some hers, some theirs, its chaos and expensive and often I resent it all.

I have Kids with umteen billion school trips/events and things that intrude into any semblence of holidays and weekends. (PS I Love my kids....honest) there committments often leave little or no spare money for other fun stuff

Should this tale of horror of children not put you off..........................

You can stay fertile well into your 40's and if you is awwff the sauce then your body is an amazing machine that heals itself. When you meet the right person it will all hopefully happen for you.

Otherwise you could look into doing some voluteer work with kids or offer to babysit for your chum - after an evening with kids you'll either be inspired or completely barmy like us othe mums:rotfl:

Don't get down (I know its hard) but life on either side of the fence isn't the bed or roses its cracked up to be honest injun guv - I bet your friend envy's you being single and thinks you are having a high old time of it.

Hugs lady.

40somethingmum

jo1972 wrote: »

Don't fancy kebab tonight, I'm going to have Chinese, ermm.....pancake roll, peking ribs in sauce, singapore noodles and some spicy chicken wings.....well he did say to get want I want

Stop !:drool::drool::drool:


OH has never learnt to drive, he did have lessons a couple of times of the years but each time he was made redundant and he couldn't afford to keep it up. I would never teach him cos I don't have the patience and I don't want him ruining MY car

Jo, Why did I think your DH was a bus driver:doh:


Well done on not caving tonite. You are doing really ... especially on yor first day back at work:T:T

40SM

Pippilongstocking

Whoops jo said similar stuff

glasgowgirl

Thanks Fay,
That's a HUGE help in terms of keeping it all in perspective.
I know that if I want a relationship, I need to be more proactive and go out there and meet new people - it's just so bl**dy scary!! I think getting to know/accept/like the real, AF me is a good step towards that.
Hoping the next few years will be an exciting journey.
xx

glasgowgirl

40somethingmum wrote: »

Jo, Why did I think your DH was a bus driver:doh:



40SM

Yeah, I thought he was a bus driver too!

Edited to say: I'd be surprised if the bus drivers in Glasgow have a licence between 'em - drive like blooming maniacs!

jo1972

40somethingmum wrote: »

Jo, Why did I think your DH was a bus driver:doh:40SM

He's an inspector

fayjmck wrote: »

Whoops jo said similar stuff

You said it better

So_Sad_Angel

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Aaaaaaaaaaaargh, I'm struggling tonight. Existential life crisis (keeping on the French theme you see) .

Met someone I used to know, but hadn't seen in years. She's married and pregnant and I'm, well, doing the same old same old.

Finding it all quite depressing - live alone, no partner, no chance of kids as far as I can see, time running out. Any fertility that's likely to last over 40 probably been killed by all the booze I've drunk.

Hmmmm....self-pitying huh?

Could really go a litre of red. But won't - determined not to go out.

Thanks for listening.
xx

Hugs Honey.....try & concentrate on the positives. Self pity will just bring you further down. I had the marriage, kids, career, house, posh cars etc & I`ve lost it all within a year....not because of the drink btw, but situations can change quite dramtically...very quickly.

The positives can happen too....you have to just keep believing. Life has a funny way of throwing surprises at us....don`t be despondent...you never know whats round that next corner.

Sorry not sure that was very helpful but lots of hugs to you.

Angiexx

honeybear_2

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Think that's part of my drive to drink. Like the real me - pretty shy, quiet - isn't good enough. Need to drink to be confident/bubbly/put on an act and make out like you're living the perfect life.
Hmmmmm - I need therapy!
xx

I can understand that sentiment - I have a big confidence act going on too, much easier at times than letting people see how scared/nervous/unsure/quiet I am etc etc. And alcohol does seem to help in social situations... except, of course, we know it doesn't really help in the long-term.

But then that's why we're on here - this is the therapy

40somethingmum

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PRICE_IS_RIGHT wrote: »

Merci, ours de miel

Je n'aime pas le Centre Trafford, mais j'y vais parce que les magasins sont ouverts jusqu'a 10 H du soir!!!!!!

A bientot!!!!

Now , you are just showing off :rotfl:

Is this what it is like for the rest of you when us Scots start talking on here ?:rotfl:

40SM