TGI Friday-daily chat,17th...

ZTD

schoolrunmum wrote: »

Spitting doesn't even BEGIN to describe it. And yes Z,I do keep money in other a/c just in case,but unbelievably I shifted most of it back into A and L by cheque a few days ago to put in savings a/c...which I can't access due to PIN non arrival-arrgghh, it's like I'm on some endless nightmare treadmill...
Z-why do you think bank has leak?

It's too quick. It's tempting to think of "abroad" being a nest of vipers with shops always wanting to clean you out and that the police out there turn a blind eye to fraud - but that's what the banks want you to believe in order to deflect attention from their internal controls, or the lack of them.

Truth is, if everytime someone spends at "Ho Lee Fook's Knicknack Emporium" they get their card cloned, he would be denied access to mastercards/visas systems PDQ. At which point he'd be out of business, which ultimately probably pays better than a handful of fraudulent transactions.

*Always* have emergency money. If you don't beleive me, then try living off your store-cupboard for 7-10 days.

LouiseJ

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

hmmmmmm.......we have a kind of ad hoc one - very ad hoc. All tutors are sessional only so 2 hours work = 2 hours pay. The (very) rough bands are

unqualified (teaching non-accredited)
part qualified (teaching non-accredited)
qualified (teaching non-accredited)
qualified (accredited - GCSE's/A levels)
qualified (Skills for Life)

It's not quite so cut and dried as that though as some seem to have a kind of 'legacy' rate which is possibly higher than they should be on from before the current rules about what constitutes qualified came in.

I'm on the part qualified rate. Rates are £16.71 - £22.00. they are just about to announce new rates, apparently it's all tied in with the IfL and continuing professional development and some may have a small pay cut.

Sorry BB I was meaning full time lecturer salary banding, I am at the top of my band and I have been carrying out duties that should put me on the next band but when I asked at appraisal it was sort of dismissed.

I dont want to go back in September with more expected of me and not be on the right band:mad:

chick-chick

I met my OH online. Nearly didn't meet him at all though, after reading a flippin' book called 'He's Just Not that In to You'. Honestly, it made me evil towards men! :eek:

The first time we were due to meet, he contacted me to say he couldn't make it, because he was stuck in stormy weather on board a ship. Well because I'd read this book, I was convinced he was just messing me around, and if he couldn't be bothered to make the effort for our first date, then I wasn't going to waste my time on him.

As it turns out, he was telling the truth. I felt awful for being such a ruthless b!tch though :rotfl:When I told him we nearly didn't meet because of that book, he made me bin it :rotfl:

ZTD

Gemmzie wrote: »

I do the same, but after two evenings out/dates they seem to either be leeches or trying to get me into bed.

I sometimes have the same problem...first thing I do is find out where they've put their glasses down. That solves it many times for me. After that, assuming you're unwilling, is to find out if they are actually worth having around...

You can find decent people, but if you have trouble finding them, then you're looking in the wrong places, and you need to change your attitude as to where they are to be found.

schoolrunmum

Yeah,I do have other cards I can use and there's always the good ole Post Office, It's just that we are very rural so nothing local-have to drive to get to PO etc...any tips at all on prevention gratefully accepted!

Pooky

Snaggles wrote: »

To add to the confusion, he is now chatting to me as though nothing is wrong BUT there is still no flirting. Feel like screaming 'I fancy the pants off you, you idiot, flirt with me a little bit at least!!!'.

I agree, online dating is very tricky. I did meet Mr Sunday online, but thankfully the majority of our relationship has been conducted offline. Talking about anything emotionally charged online causes no end of problems, because when you take tone of voice and facial expression out of the equation, the meaning can be lost so easily.

Very much so - it was one of the major issues I had with DH (before he was DH) he'd type something that I'd read the wrong way, I'd log off in a fit of pique and he'd be clueless to what he'd done wrong.

I came to the conclusion that unless I spelt things out in simple terms, he had no idea what tricks my mind was playing.

ZTD

LouiseJ wrote: »

Sorry BB I was meaning full time lecturer salary banding, I am at the top of my band and I have been carrying out duties that should put me on the next band but when I asked at appraisal it was sort of dismissed.

I dont want to go back in September with more expected of me and not be on the right band:mad:

Keep a diary. Then put in a request for a re-appraisal. They'll be really pissed off when they find out you have dates and times. They'll be even more pissed off when you get them to put in writing what you shouldn't be doing on your grade and you wave it in front of their faces. Honorariums often follow - especially if you have them over a barrel.

Burlesque_Babe

hhmm. My slow cooker seems to have produced enough rice pudding to feed the whole of DFW! :eek:

skint_spice

tenmah wrote: »

Oh Snaggles, I really know how you feel. I am like that with my boyfriend. If he doesn't respond straight away I think 'that's it' it's over, even though I have been seeing him for 4 and a half years

I send him some horrible texts, which he always puts up with because he knows what I am like, but then again I don't know why he just doesn't contact me so I know everything is ok and then I wouldn't need to send the horrible texts. I just think they don't get it and obviously don't see things the way we do.

I admit I am very needy and need constant reassurance from him and to his credit when he does give it to me, he makes me feel so special, but as I say to him actions speak louder than words.

Don't suppose things will change though!!

OMG tenmah, I dated a bloke who did that and it was infuriating! he would text me all night while I was out with my pals and if I didn't answer quickly enough it meant I was up to something...sometimes I was just driving between places and other times it just got too much. I'm all for keeping in contact but this was constant.

ZTD

Snaggles wrote: »

To add to the confusion, he is now chatting to me as though nothing is wrong BUT there is still no flirting. Feel like screaming 'I fancy the pants off you, you idiot, flirt with me a little bit at least!!!'.

If you've been "less than happy" he'll be assuming PMT/eggshells and avoiding that sort of stuff/anything controversial in case he annoys you. Is conversation banal?

Snaggles wrote: »

I agree, online dating is very tricky. I did meet Mr Sunday online, but thankfully the majority of our relationship has been conducted offline. Talking about anything emotionally charged online causes no end of problems, because when you take tone of voice and facial expression out of the equation, the meaning can be lost so easily.

Assume people are telling the truth and don't read hidden meaning into it. If you find out he's been actually messing you around, you have all the time in the world to dump him.