Help for disability?

margaretclare

notakid wrote: »

Thanks everyone.
I think the op hasn't gone ahead because my Mom tells the Dr she can cope, and as she has been hospitalized several times recently because of her breathing they are dealing with that, but its worth knowing that she doesn't need a general.

I spoke to my Dad, he is worried that if he claims then years down the line they might make him sell the house if Mom gets worse and put her in a Home! His reasoning is that he wouldn't be able to say he could cope as he would have admitted he needs help with Mom if he claims now!

I've told him it doesn't work that way but I don't know if he believes me, I'm still the child! :rolleyes: and to be honest my Dad still does a lot for both my sister and me. I've told him to go to the CRB and speak to them once he gets the forms. Both myself and my sister live close to my parents as I've always wanted to live close by as they grow older and I've promised them they will leave their house in a box, not before! I've said the only time I would have to break that promise is if either lost their marbles but as they are at the age they are, that it would be unlikely.

My Dad's always been a bit of a freethinker and he doesn't like government at all! He doesn't like giving information, he is his own man!;) :cool: I'll let you know if I can talk them round. I'm trying to use his love for my Mom to guilt him into claiming. A scooter she can wiz around on!

Claiming attendance allowance has nowt to do with being put into a home. In fact, the idea of it is extra income to pay for help to enable you NOT to go into a home!!

No one will want to sell the house if one of your parents is still living there.

'She can cope....' well, yes, but wouldn't she cope much better, have more of a quality of life, if she recognised that she needs help which is out there and which will help her?

Epidural is certainly a possibility. Best to ask about it.

What's the reason for her breathing problems?

notakid

Hi Margaret.

I might show my Dad this thread!
The Hosp are not sure, she has suffered from Asthma for 20 odd years but since last Christmas her breathing has got worse. As I said she has been hospitalized twice because of it. First they thought it was PBD then backtracked and said it was the Asthma.

She is still being checked every 4 weeks and her heart is being monitored.

Her knees are shot, I've asked her to talk to her Dr tomorrow as she has an appointment but tbh she is very old school and takes direction from my Dad. She does get a little confused, (this isn't age she's always been like it!)

I've rang up and asked for the forms to be delivered to their house. They said it was going to take 7 to 10 days. I'll start pestering them again! I'm off the summer holidays with the kids so I'm thinking of suggesting to my Dad we go up to the CRB together.

This thread has been very useful. Esp the suggestion about "worst day". I'm seeing my sister tonight for a meal out with friends so I'm going to get her on side too!

zzzLazyDaisy

My 80 yr old dad had a full hip replacement under epidural/local anasthetic. It was a three hour op and he had to lie completely still the whole time.

He said the worst thing was listening to the saw going through the bone :eek:

Mojisola

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

My 80 yr old dad had a full hip replacement under epidural/local anasthetic. It was a three hour op and he had to lie completely still the whole time.

He said the worst thing was listening to the saw going through the bone :eek:

Some hospitals let you wear headphones so you can listen to music instead of the sawing and hammering.

notakid - I think if you are new to claiming that it's always better to get an advisor to fill in the forms. Try Age Concern or the Pensions Service. Their advisors will also check whether your parents are entitled to anything else. You do have to sacrifice some privacy - telling them all your financial information - but it can be worth it.

margaretclare

I've rang up and asked for the forms to be delivered to their house. They said it was going to take 7 to 10 days. I'll start pestering them again!

IIRC you can download and print the application forms: http://www.benefitsnow.co.uk/apply/aaapply1.asp

That might be quicker.

HTH

Margaret

Newly_retired

Really good advice on this thread. Your parents sound just like mine were! They did eventually get Attendance Allowance for mum and help from social services at no cost. Dad also went to a carers' group and found out about various other support. Blue badge made a lot of difference to mum's life.
My MIL has got the same.
Local authoirites vary as to what help they will provide and it is subject to a financial assessment as well as assesment of care needs. They will come to the house. At best, it can be very generous. My MIL has got handrails, bath aids, carers call twice a day to get her up/put her to bed, prepare meals, and they have dealt with bad days of s & d most professionally and caringly. Also called the nurse/ GP on her behalf when necessary.
I agree it is best to get help to complete the AA forms eg CAB or Age Concern, and definitely focus on what your mum needs help with on her worst days, rather than what she can do on her best days. They will also do a full benefit check.