Daughters had an Accident on Friends Trampoline!!! Now What???

devild_2

"I think I will tell my parents that if they want to sue my friend then they will have to go ahead and do it without my involvement."

What a cop out. It has nothing to do with them. Ultimately your child is your responsiblility.

loobylou2

If the friend is negligent for the accident, to my mind you (OP) are negligent for leaving your daughter with someone apparently unsuitable to care for a child.

Whilst I understand what you are saying here, for what its worth I leave my daughter at a nursery whilst I am working, her father looks after her for the hour or so in the evening while I am coming home from work and he left her with our friend who trained and qualified to be a childminder even though her childminding business never really got off the ground. This is the first occasion that I"ve ever had cause to be concerned about my friends ability to care for children and she"s looked after them on lots of occasions previously while I've also looked after her children so I don"t think that until now I"ve been negligent in my choice of carer. All 3 of my children love her and she"s almost like a second mother to them which is another reason why I"m so reluctant to go down the claiming/ taking legal action route. Think the best thing for me to do would be to perhaps get some independent legal advice, my employers offer an assistance scheme so I think I"ll give them a ring and see what they suggest I do.

adouglasmhor

jamespir wrote: »

yer cause at the end of the day it was a na ACCIDENT if the freind had beaten the child thn i perhaps would think twice

Can you please stop posting until you learn to read (and spell as well). You have got the wrong end of the stick (and keyboard).

bestpud

What happens if you decide to sue and your friend has no house insurance, or for some reason is not covered for this?

Are you going to take her to the cleaners?

loobylou2

devild wrote: »

"I think I will tell my parents that if they want to sue my friend then they will have to go ahead and do it without my involvement."

What a cop out. It has nothing to do with them. Ultimately your child is your responsiblility.

But they are pressuring me to sue my friend and saying that if I don"t sue they will!!! Have you read what I have actually written regarding this?? How would you feel if you were in this situation???

cheepskate_2

I think you actually want to sue to get the money, but dont want to be seen as bad or greedy by your friend , so the easy way is to let your parents sue then you look like the nice person and can blame it all on someone else..

Children have accidents all the time, its all part of growing up.

My son had more broken bones than i care to remember , all accidents and some i could have classed as the fault of the watching parent and one time the school, but would never have dreamed of suing .

My son also broke his elbow and the bone shot up his arm. I got the same advice from hospital as you that there may be the possibility of more damage, but i think they say this to protect themselves from people suing them if it turns out the arm is not perfect, karma maybe , that now you are worrying over something that has to be done because of this suing culture.

The second op(cant really be classed as an op) is simple and just takes the pins out. Nothing is wrong with my sons arm, and it works and is as strong as the other(hes left handed and it was this one he broke).

She is your friend or so you say. If this was my friend i would be so concerned about her feeling guiltyand trying to make her ok about it rather than what can i get. Obviously you are not getting the message across to your parents firmly enough, but then you are basically saying they can sue, so maybe they are confused and think you want to do it.

Be aware i dont think you will have this frined if you/ family go down the suing route , i certainly wouldnt want to know someone who sued me for this thing.

Just a thought, hope you never need your child watching cos after this i dont think there will be a queue waiting to childmind

bestpud

loobylou2 wrote: »

If the friend is negligent for the accident, to my mind you (OP) are negligent for leaving your daughter with someone apparently unsuitable to care for a child.

Whilst I understand what you are saying here, for what its worth I leave my daughter at a nursery whilst I am working, her father looks after her for the hour or so in the evening while I am coming home from work and he left her with our friend who trained and qualified to be a childminder even though her childminding business never really got off the ground. This is the first occasion that I"ve ever had cause to be concerned about my friends ability to care for children and she"s looked after them on lots of occasions previously while I've also looked after her children so I don"t think that until now I"ve been negligent in my choice of carer. All 3 of my children love her and she"s almost like a second mother to them which is another reason why I"m so reluctant to go down the claiming/ taking legal action route. Think the best thing for me to do would be to perhaps get some independent legal advice, my employers offer an assistance scheme so I think I"ll give them a ring and see what they suggest I do.

It's not just your parents who want to sue is it?

The only reason you are reluctant is because she is a good friend.

I'm guessing if your dd were at a party in a few years time, and you only knew the parent from the playground, or whatever, you'd be off to the solicitors in a shot?

jess1974

Zara33 wrote: »

OP thankyou for telling your story...I will make sure no other kids apart from my own are ever on our trampoline. :eek: I certainly couldn't afford an accident.

Absolutely agree with you, i'm glad mine are getting older, Op you know deep down what the right thing to do is, good luck telling your parents...

bestpud

cheepskate wrote: »

I think you actually want to sue to get the money, but dont want to be seen as bad or greedy by your friend , so the easy way is to let your parents sue then you look like a nice person.

Children have accidents all the time, its all part of growing up.

My son had more broken bones than i care to remember , all accidents and some i could have classed as the fault of the watching parent and one time the school, but would never have dreamed of suing .

My son also broke his elbow and the bone shot up his arm. I got the same advice from hospital as you that there may be the possibility of more damage, but i think they say this to protect themselves from people suing them if it turns out the arm is not perfect, karma maybe , that now you are worrying over something that has to be done because of this suing culture.

The second op(cant really be classed as an op) is simple and just takes the pins out. Nothing is wrong with my sons arm, and it works and is as strong as the other(hes left handed and it was this one he broke).

She is your friend or so you say. If this was my friend i would be so concerned about her feeling guiltyand trying to make her ok about it rather than what can i get

Lol, beat me to it! It's looking that way now, isn't it!

I was wondering why she hadn't told her parents to go forth! I know I would have!

loobylou2

bestpud wrote: »

What happens if you decide to sue and your friend has no house insurance, or for some reason is not covered for this?

Are you going to take her to the cleaners?

She"s got insurance because I know that she has made claims on it for various things which have been stolen or lost over the years. FWIW I feel absolutely awful that I"m being pushed to sue or make a claim against her, I certainly don"t want to do this and have no intention of taking her to the cleaners but I still feel I"ve got to look after my daughters interests in the long term as well, after all she has been hurt.