What would you do in my shoes.

Gorgeous_George

I fully agree with Fran.

Assuming the 'missing' money is less than half of the residual estate, a few points to consider (IMHO):

1. If the money was gifted, he should have included in his tax return. Your mother's benefit claims would not be illegal.

2. If the money was not gifted but held on your mother's behalf then she and/or your brother are fraudsters. By all means seek legal action. As well as the taxpayer being refunded, your brother and your mother's estate will be damaged financially. This will tarnish your mother's memory.

3. Your family is benefitting from 80% of your mother's estate (assuming equal shares and excluding the money above). The solicitors are making a mint from your hatred/distrust of your brother. Losing your brother will only add to the loss of your mum.

Think carefully before your bitterness affects your health.

GG

goodytwoshoes_3

Fran wrote:

Ok, you asked for objective opinions on this and I have just re-read this thread.

Why did you make this comment?


Was your brother caring for your mother?

Does he only stand to get one fifth of the estate anyway (ie your family will get four fifths)?

Do you really want to involve your brother with the police? The DWP will involve them if they think it's necessary, but are you never likely to have a relationship with him again? I think you said the solicitor was going to inform DWP so do you need to make things worse with your brother?

I made this comment because he never accepts responsibility for anything ,he always blames other people for everything.

He was caring for my mother more than me because of location and the fact he has no children to look after.

The will states the estate to be divided equally but he was left many other valuable things worth thousands which were not part of the estate.i.e. Jewerlery.

Obviously if I had wanted to involve the police I would have done so months ago, but now because of all his lies and the trouble he has caused I may have no other option as I do not feel that I am being fairly treated by anyone at the moment.
As I said if he had told me the truth none of this would have happened.

I don't want a relationship with him again after they way he has treated my children. I gave him every oportunity to do the right thing and he didn't.

goodytwoshoes_3

Gorgeous_George wrote:

I fully agree with Fran.

Assuming the 'missing' money is less than half of the residual estate, a few points to consider (IMHO):

1. If the money was gifted, he should have included in his tax return. Your mother's benefit claims would not be illegal.

2. If the money was not gifted but held on your mother's behalf then she and/or your brother are fraudsters. By all means seek legal action. As well as the taxpayer being refunded, your brother and your mother's estate will be damaged financially. This will tarnish your mother's memory.

3. Your family is benefitting from 80% of your mother's estate (assuming equal shares and excluding the money above). The solicitors are making a mint from your hatred/distrust of your brother. Losing your brother will only add to the loss of your mum.

Think carefully before your bitterness affects your health.

GG

How can she gift him £80,000 and still claim benefits ?

We may be benefiting 80% but also loseing £64,000, which is alot of money to us but not to him.
Anyway as hard as people may find it in this day and age, it's not about the money, as I said if he had said from the outset that she had given it to him I would have accepted that. It's about truth and honesty. Why should I spend the rest of my life wondering about it? All I want is the truth.