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Skint Spice's journey to being less skinty and more spicy
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Wow you are on a roll~go you :jI am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.0 -
So where was I?.... Paid £500 off the mortgage this month
so pretty happy with that, currently waiting to see if I shall have a job in a couple of months so not overpaying much for now, all should be clearer in a week or so then I can move forward... onwards and upwards!
On other matters - friend asked me to do a reference for her daughter and I said no - does this make me a mean person? She seems very lazy, disorganised and the fact she's 23 and her mother is asking for her and in a hurry as she needs it NOW??!!! I just said I didn't know her well enough...
Do other folk just say yes to everyone?Mortgage OP 2025 £6250/7000Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000
Mortgage balance: £36,210
Money making challenge £38/400
”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)0 -
POsitive vibes re job.
I usually do references when asked but I would have a wee excuse when it was circumstances like that.Its your integrity after all.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.0 -
Thanks Beanie, she's a nice enough lass but I wouldn't employ her...Mortgage OP 2025 £6250/7000Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000
Mortgage balance: £36,210
Money making challenge £38/400
”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)0 -
I don't think you're allowed to lie on references these days so saying no definately a preferable option.
She hasn't worked for you.
Never mix business and pleasure.
You have to retain your integrity.
So yes, absolutely right decision.
B xDebt LBM (08/09) £11,641. DEBT FREE APRIL 2021.
Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt' 48% off mortgage
'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB0 -
skint_spice wrote: »So where was I?.... Paid £500 off the mortgage this month
:Tskint_spice wrote: »so pretty happy with that, currently waiting to see if I shall have a job in a couple of months so not overpaying much for now, all should be clearer in a week or so then I can move forward... onwards and upwards!
When the future becomes clear, then you can plan. :grouphug:skint_spice wrote: »On other matters - friend asked me to do a reference for her daughter and I said no - does this make me a mean person?
No.skint_spice wrote: »She seems very lazy, disorganised and the fact she's 23 and her mother is asking for her and in a hurry as she needs it NOW??!!! I just said I didn't know her well enough...
Do other folk just say yes to everyone?skint_spice wrote: »Thanks Beanie, she's a nice enough lass but I wouldn't employ her...
It would have been mean to write a reference saying: "I wouldn't touch her with a bargepole. Even wearing gloves." But just saying you won't do it isn't being mean."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
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It would have been mean to write a reference saying: "I wouldn't touch her with a bargepole. Even wearing gloves." But just saying you won't do it isn't being mean.
If you wrote that reference couldn't she sue when barge owners wouldn't employ her.Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. DEBT FREE APRIL 2021.
Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt' 48% off mortgage
'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB0 -
If you wrote that reference couldn't she sue when barge owners wouldn't employ her.
No, however she could ask barge owners for a reference if they clatter her around the head with a pole on the grounds that they *would* touch her with a barge pole..."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
It was a character reference but I just don't feel I know her well enough or in a positive enough light - writing on FB "who can give me a lift to work I start in 10 mins?" doesn't strike me as a dependable sort...Mortgage OP 2025 £6250/7000Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000
Mortgage balance: £36,210
Money making challenge £38/400
”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)0 -
skint_spice wrote: »It was a character reference but I just don't feel I know her well enough or in a positive enough light - writing on FB "who can give me a lift to work I start in 10 mins?" doesn't strike me as a dependable sort...
It's not sounding like she has an overcrowding problem inside her skull."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0
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