HOw do I manage all the presents my 6 year old will be getting for birthday

Janepig

mrcow wrote: »

So you're going to let your child open 30 presents, and then you re going to take them away to "recycle" them?

Way to go. You do realise that a 6 year old will remember each and every gift they open.

It's just toys. He's six years old, can he not just be allowed to have them?

Not necessarily. DD had a big party last year with loads of presents and she certainly wouldn't have remembered what she had, although she's a bit strange with toys and doesn't tend to bother with them all that much - often she'll ignore the larger gifts and worship a cheap lipgloss or something instead :rolleyes:. Tbh though I tend to only keep "doublers" to give again as presents as I would feel guilty giving away other stuff, after all, it's hers not mine.

Jxx

richardw

HappySad wrote: »

I would like him to have something if it went towards a large present.

Does it really matter?

Sounds like your son will have a great party with all the other children, irrespective of the monetary value of presents/present.

u01jet4

HappySad wrote: »

Why do people get offending but for Wedding is it normal to have a wedding list?
Even for baby showers it is normal to have a baby list..

Some people get offended if they are invited to a party and they have to bring along food. Some people are not. I knew someone who struggled to put on birthday parties for their child because she could not afford to and she would not ask everyone to bring along food because she said that it was rude and if that was her she would be offended.

I have hosted and also been to plenty of parties where guest bring along food & no one is offended.

I also dont think many people have baby showers or use wedding lists, but if so people have a birthday a year, whereas weddings and babies, not so many!

mum26

Flashdaisy wrote: »

OP, I do understand about not wanting toys cluttering up everywhere, but I don't think people would take too kindly to being given a "birthday list" TBH.

However, you might well find that lots of the parents approach you to ask what your LO would like for his birthday, in which case you could then say "ELC vouchers would be fab please, he's saving up to buy X"

I agree with this, i'd be happy to give a £5 voucher towards a slide or something that the child really wants and will get a load of use out of. I do usually text and ask if there is anything specific the child likes, although I have my stash box at the ready too, lol!

GettingHitched

how to manage my childs birthday presents? Take a leaf out of his book and be grateful for what he has been given

aliasojo

HappySad wrote: »

I am considering to ask parents that want to give something to make a donation to our local children's charity of £5.

In my culture we say what we want and ask what the other person wants.


I am being put off in viting this number because of having to manage the number of potential present we would inevitably get. I don't really want to just get 30 present from people who just want to buy stuff for my son.

Your points about your culture are valid but you have to understand that you are inviting people who are not of your culture, and you have to accept they will do things according to their own thoughts and not yours.

Whilst I accept there are differences in cultures, the fact remains that the majority of people believe it to be very rude for the recipient to voice an opinion about gifts in advance of receiving them....unless they are specifically asked.

Even asking for a donation to charity, (especially a specified amount) is also rude imo.

You say you are being put off inviting people because of the thought of managing too many presents but in the first post you said you wanted your son to get presents as he liked opening them. It's obvious from all your posts that you only want presents that suit you and that is the problem. It might make sense to you but this will without doubt be seen as selfish and rude by some of the parents of the invited children.

I get the impression that you will do your own thing anyway regardless of the advice given here, so good luck and I hope your son enjoys his day.

Errata

One six year old to another six year old "Happy birthday and here's a fiver" Yeah, right.

pipkin71

djdymond wrote: »

perhaps if your that bothered about too many gifts, it may be easier to say to everyone no gifts at all?

I would agree with this.

Instead of worrying about lots of small gifts, perhaps state that gifts are not necessary as the day is about your child having fun with his friends.

I personally think it would be rude to state what should be given as a gift. My experience of parties though is that some parents may ask if there's anything your child specifically likes, and perhaps then suggest they could get a voucher, but not ask upfront.

gill_81uk

I am considering to ask parents that want to give something to make a donation to our local children's charity of £5. So it 15 could give to charity then they would be getting about £60. Then only ask close family to give present. I know of a person that hosted a party and collected for Annesty international with a voluntary donation.

Why not keep anything that he doesn't like in its packaging give it to one of the new toy collections at Christmas? That way you are helping those less fortunate but not offending any parents of over complicating things. Your son could go with you and be the one to actually put the toys in the collection point.

This way your son will also get the pleasure of opening the presents, which you stressed in your first post.

Plus you might be surprised at what your son likes - some of my most played with toys as a child were presents from parties that my parents would not have thought to buy me.

LouBlue

Do 6 year olds have 30-40 friends normally?