Wedding Present

Piggles12345

Hi,

I have to go to my sister's wedding this summer and she has asked for vouchers instead of presents.

If I was buying a present, I would get a moneysaving present and dress it up to look more expensive than it actually was!

However, she has asked for vouchers for there is no hiding from the true cost of them!

How much do you think I should spend? How much would you expect from your sister? How much would you give your sister?

Thank you.

roxalana

I would get her a thoughtful moneysaving gift anyway if it were my sister. If I knew someone less well I would do the vouchers as I wouldn't be able to make the gift thoughtful.

MsChazzer

I agree with roxalana, if I'm sure of someone's taste I'd rather give a gift than vouchers (not because I think asking for vouchers is rude or anything, I just prefer giving something more personal), especially if it was my sister.

becky170

Deciding on how much to spend on a wedding present is always difficult, and that's even more difficult when it's vouchers and it's obvious what you've given. I'd just give what you are comfortable with and what you can afford, and as roxalana said you can always get a gift instead of vouchers....just because they've asked for vouchers doesn't mean you have to give them. I would rather give a close friend or family member something they could keep rather then money or vouchers.

Yellowbug

How much would you spend on a gift?

Whatever your answer is thats what you should give

Just because you are giving vouchers instead of a gift doesnt mean you should think you should give more

francinefishpaw

I don't have a sister, but saying that if I was going to a close family wedding I would probably give between £40-£60 in vouchers. But that is just me. You know how much you can afford and how much you want to give.

Claire2831

Hello

I think it very much depends on
(a) how close you and your sister are and
(b) what your financial situation is at present.

Personally, I’m very close to my brother and sister so if I had quite a bit spare at the time then I would happily give it all to them. Equally, if I was struggling at the time then I would be very honest with them and say I can’t afford too and both would be completely fine with it.

If I wasn’t close to my siblings, didn’t see them very often or if they were financially a lot better of than me then I would give them the same amount as I would if I was attending a friends wedding.

Hope this may be of some help to you

rinroo

I agree with all the above, my eldest sister got married a few years ago and we are very close, she is going to be my MOH. I gave her £100 as they had just bought a very run down house so I knew this would be a little help.

However H2b's sister is getting married later on this year and we are not close at all so we will give between £30-£50 money is tight now as we are planning our own wedding.

We are by no means well off or have lots of cash left over after the bills so i think that amount is quite generous.

I am sure your sister wouldn't mind you getting her a gift instead of vouchers as I'm sure you would get her something that would be of use.

kr15snw

Completely depends on how much you can afford.

For my brothers up and coming wedding I think we'll spend about £100 on their wedding gift.

But for our wedding I dont expect a penny from my brother (as they are in financial trouble and struggling to afford to feed the kids). He gave us £10 for our engagement which I was so touched by, as I know he cant afford it!

If you cant afford much Im sure your sister wont mind

I only got slight miffed when my brother (who earns over 25k a year and has no out goings as he lives rent free with the parents) didnt give us an engagement gift and has looked at our possible wedding list and said 'what can i get for £20' and is serious....

Piggles12345

Claire2831 wrote: »

Hello

I think it very much depends on
(a) how close you and your sister are and
(b) what your financial situation is at present.

Personally, I’m very close to my brother and sister so if I had quite a bit spare at the time then I would happily give it all to them. Equally, if I was struggling at the time then I would be very honest with them and say I can’t afford too and both would be completely fine with it.

If I wasn’t close to my siblings, didn’t see them very often or if they were financially a lot better of than me then I would give them the same amount as I would if I was attending a friends wedding.

Hope this may be of some help to you

(a) My sister and I don't get on at all! We haven't spoken since Xmas. She has only invited me so that our parents aren't upset and I have only accepted the invite so our parents aren't upset.

(b) My present financial situation is great- I recently got a promotion which has hugely increased my salary. However, I don't particularly want to spend my money on someone I don't like at all!

Is £40 vouchers enough do you think?

Some of you are talking about £100- but I really don't want to spend this much at all .

francinefishpaw

Piggles12345 wrote: »

(a) My sister and I don't get on at all! We haven't spoken since Xmas. She has only invited me so that our parents aren't upset and I have only accepted the invite so our parents aren't upset.

(b) My present financial situation is great- I recently got a promotion which has hugely increased my salary. However, I don't particularly want to spend my money on someone I don't like at all!

Is £40 vouchers enough do you think?

Some of you are talking about £100- but I really don't want to spend this much at all .

I think £40 would be fine.