Am i gay?

dearyme

Hi all
i have been in relationships with women all my life , i am mid 30s - we have a child together and generally happy,
however, i am worried that i am bisexual as i have always found a select number of men attractive (not as many men as women) this problem has cropped up again as i really fancy rodrigo from big brother. I think he is gorgeous

people say i am camp , what should i do. Do i hide my feelings for life - but i am becoming more curious...

collywollys

get a bit of c*#* in ya and find out!!!!!!!!!!

nikki702

collywollys wrote: »

get a bit of c*#* in ya and find out!!!!!!!!!!

Thats one suggestion! :eek::eek::eek:

creased-leach

Why "worry" about being bisexual? If you fancy guys, you fancy guys. If you fancy girls too, then you're not gay.

I'd be more worried about you watching big brother...

January20

Finding people of your own sex attractive is quite normal. I don't think it's a problem, but it seems you are in a relationship so are you tempted to stray? or is it just curiosity? (you know a bit like shopping with a credit card in your pocket but no intention of using it)

Sparky09

I think the easiest way to find out is ask yourself if you actually want to have sex with a man? I'm happy to say if a bloke is attractive, and can admire good looking qualities in a bloke, but the idea of sex with a man or seeing him naked, particularly a hairy !!!!...ewwww! How do women even find this sexy?

So if the idea of a hairy man naked turns you on...then yes I would say you most certainly are bi-sexual or gay!

emlou2009

someone is laughing at us here methinks!!

DKLS

Go to your nearest gay bar tonight, within 10 mins, you should have the offer of a gobble, go have one, and see which you prefer.

Dont be embarrassed there are plenty of "straight, married with kids" type men in gay bars looking for action.

fatou256

if you were gay you will have known all your life right from the start !

durham_girl

fatou256 wrote: »

if you were gay you will have known all your life right from the start !

What a load of rubbish.

Some people will know from a young age, but others only realise later in life. Not everyone has the same feelings at the same time in their life.

feelinggood_2

fatou256 wrote: »

if you were gay you will have known all your life right from the start !

I don't think that is always the case. Bisexuality covers so much, and if someone has a clear preference for one sex, it can be confusing. It can take time to accept bisexuality.

OP, bisexuality and long-term relationships can be difficult, its something I struggled with. I suppose you have to ask if you want to be faithful.

You can just enjoy the feelings and fantasies you have, without acting on them, if that is what you chose.

Perhaps you could find someone who has been through this to talk to?