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Divorce... how will it all work?
frivolous_fay
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Where to start...?
My father has asked my mother for a divorce (it's been a long time coming and he has my blessing). My mum has taken it badly and is bouncing between screaming rages and gloomy denial, and apparently intends to make things difficult (dad tells me this could prolong the process 5 years)
My dad is about 70, my mum in her mid 50s. The family home is paid for. My two sisters (early 20s) are semi-dependant and living at home.
My mum adores the house and my dad has chosen to move out. I imagine dad will be entitled to half the value of the property... but although mum has quite a good job she is adamant that she doesn't want a mortgage 'at her age'.
My sisters are panicking about where they will live if the house has to be sold, not to mention where 20 years of mum's clutter will go! (The house used to comfortably accommodate a family of six plus two grandparents, so there's a lot of room for clutter!)
I'm totally in the dark about how property, money etc gets sorted out during divorces. I don't understand why or how my mum hopes to fight the divorce... or why it would prolong things so much. They've been unhappy together for over 10 years now... why not just do the deed quickly and get far away from each other, for heaven's sake? One of my dad's concerns is that a lengthy battle would waste the money he hopes will be our (four siblings) inheritance. I think he has been quite savvy over the years and has a nest-egg.
Can anyone recommend anywhere I can find out about the whole process, or have any experience that may shed some light on things for me? I live about 300 miles away from the crisis zone and don't get to visit much, so I get pretty out of the loop with the family, apart from regular updates from 2nd-youngest sister and rare ones from dad. Although mum and I get on pretty well these days, (after a stormy adolescent relationship, to put it mildly) we only tend to talk on the phone about once a month, and we haven't discussed the divorce as it's such an inflammatory subject... I don't even know if she knows I know. (She didn't even want my sisters to know about it - as far as I know only the immediate family are aware) It doesn't help that my dad has found someone new, and she knows this.
My father has asked my mother for a divorce (it's been a long time coming and he has my blessing). My mum has taken it badly and is bouncing between screaming rages and gloomy denial, and apparently intends to make things difficult (dad tells me this could prolong the process 5 years)
My dad is about 70, my mum in her mid 50s. The family home is paid for. My two sisters (early 20s) are semi-dependant and living at home.
My mum adores the house and my dad has chosen to move out. I imagine dad will be entitled to half the value of the property... but although mum has quite a good job she is adamant that she doesn't want a mortgage 'at her age'.
My sisters are panicking about where they will live if the house has to be sold, not to mention where 20 years of mum's clutter will go! (The house used to comfortably accommodate a family of six plus two grandparents, so there's a lot of room for clutter!)
I'm totally in the dark about how property, money etc gets sorted out during divorces. I don't understand why or how my mum hopes to fight the divorce... or why it would prolong things so much. They've been unhappy together for over 10 years now... why not just do the deed quickly and get far away from each other, for heaven's sake? One of my dad's concerns is that a lengthy battle would waste the money he hopes will be our (four siblings) inheritance. I think he has been quite savvy over the years and has a nest-egg.
Can anyone recommend anywhere I can find out about the whole process, or have any experience that may shed some light on things for me? I live about 300 miles away from the crisis zone and don't get to visit much, so I get pretty out of the loop with the family, apart from regular updates from 2nd-youngest sister and rare ones from dad. Although mum and I get on pretty well these days, (after a stormy adolescent relationship, to put it mildly) we only tend to talk on the phone about once a month, and we haven't discussed the divorce as it's such an inflammatory subject... I don't even know if she knows I know. (She didn't even want my sisters to know about it - as far as I know only the immediate family are aware) It doesn't help that my dad has found someone new, and she knows this.
My TV is broken! 
Edit: refunded £515 for TV 1.5 years out of warranty - thank you Sale of Goods Act! :j
Edit: refunded £515 for TV 1.5 years out of warranty - thank you Sale of Goods Act! :j
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