Relationship breakdown co habitee woes

tkwad

My relationship of 17 years became intollerable over 2 years ago. My ex partner who never worked the last 16 years due to epilepsy emotionaly bullied me into complying to all his demands and when i tried to leave a few times he tried to commit suicide making me feel helpless to leave. I found a man online i had met one time previously at a mutual friends party and we had hit it off and had a terriffic night.
we became good friends and i confided lots to him. He promised me that if i could find the strength to move on he would support me and through it we would be friends for life.
Needless to say when my ex partner found out about this friendship my relationship ended in a violent attack which left me homeless with my 2 children, my son having witnessed the attack on me and tried to remove his father from me.
As the home was in my partners name i had to apply for an occupation order. In a totally unexpected move my partner acted emotionally deficient and as such was able to keep his own children from their own home (unless they left me)
We had to be housed in emergency accomodation by the council.
We have now been rehoused and i am currently on income support as a lone parent.
My ex partner has managed (with the help of his parents) to convince a psychologist he is unable to cope with court proceedings of any kind due to a very low iq.
I am now wanting to move out of the area and am tired of my ex telling my children aged 14 and 12 that they dont have to move they have a choice to stay with him. I cant see how they can when he has effectively made himself out to be of such a low iq he needs care of every kind. He has no parental responsibility as we were never married and doubt he could apply for it now due to his sudden found inability to effectively understand simple proceedings.

Rant over.

tkwad

I am now bringing a tolata proceeding against him to try to sell the house, i have to prove i contributed towards the property for over 16 years which i did.

HAs anyone any experience of any tolata proceedings?

Would there be a way my ex partner could stop me moving? my solicitor has told me he cant and the judge in the family court when i applied forn extension of the non molestation order asked if he had parental responsibility and when i answered on his behalf no we were never married the judge seemed to suggest he was unable to stop me. But he insists on telling the children every time they see him and its causing so much heartache.

Pee

You need to see a solicitor. CAB may be able to help. there should be half an hour free and maybe access to Legal Aid - although make sure they tell you about the Stautory Charge.