Is there a way to help your child with homewrok

gabyjane

And not get cross when they really can't be bothered? DD is clever and most of the time she does fine BUT we have these odd occasions where she just cannot be bothered and it drives me mad..she sits there in a sulky mood and ignores me, talks over me, thinks she is always right and then finally after i have had enough i send her off saying 'fine do it your way' and it ends in tears. I have sent her upstairs as she has no intention of doing it properly and i tbh don't see why i should help her when she is like it..
The other thing that has annoyed me is it is really easy homwork but because she is not in the right frame of in she 'can't do it' when i know she can..grrr kids!!

twentypenceoff

i have always thought homework was unfair.

why should kids spend all day at school then come home and do more work when they are at an age where they should be out playing or relaxing?

they will have time enough for work when they start earning money.

the only time homework is ok in my opinion is in a run up to exams when they would be revising anyway.

mumps

If mine didn't want to do it I usually suggested tidying their bedroom or helping with another chore. They usually found a burning desire to do homework.

Oldernotwiser

I don't really think that parents should "help" children with their homework, anyway. Provide them with a quiet space and make some rules about when it needs to be done and let them get on with it. Taking them to the library and relevant visits are, of course, also useful.

Teachers get really fed up with marking homework that's obviously been done by the parents!

nearlyrich

I never helped with homework, provided the tools and was on hand for a discussion if they needed to get something clear but I never did their homework.

jenhug

Have you tried different times of the day with doing the homework? Mine get lots of homework, I have one child that will come in and get straight on with it, and another that needs some time out to unwind before they tackle it.
Personally I totally disagree with it, and its getting to the point now where I am considering telling the teachers to poke the homework, my year 3 daughter gets more than an hour more homework per week than my year 5 child.

NAR

Parents should never do their children's homework. They should do similar examples and talk through the "workings" and then let the children do their own homework.

Emzycal

Perhaps,if she's bright,it's TOO easy?
I was quite a bright child (still am vaguely bright,though not as much so as I once was...) and all my life I've struggled to keep my concentration when things were too easy,sometimes just becoming plain confused by the simplicity!

Perhaps ask her if this is the case,then talk to teachers about it if so?

georgia1

I have found that trying to have a consistent routine for homework has helped my son. For example, we've found that for him it works best if he does his reading as soon as he gets in from school and now that we've established that as a routine he just gets on with it and I don't even have to remind him any more. He just gets a drink and snack and then disappears upstairs with his book.

As for the other homework - a reward system can work well, depending on the age of the child. We've tried marbles in the jar and once the jar is full there's a bigger reward. In terms of the reading above - as soon as he's done his reading he's allowed a little TV time. It depends what sort of rewards you feel would be appropriate for your child.

HTH

Surfbabe

You don;t say how old your daughter is - that makes a big difference as to how to deal with it!
When mine where at primary school I never made a huge deal out of it - they either did it straight away or they didn;t. if they didn;t get it done then they had to explain to the teacher why not!. We used to set a period aside to learn spellings in a fun way.

At secondary school - they soon find that if they haven;t done it results in detention! but don;t make a huge battle out of it

Susan_Frost

Basically, you seem to be saying that your daughter does do her homework, but on occasions does not feel like doing it and it gets to a bit of a stand off.

We all have things we have to do whether we like it or not, however, how many times do we say I cant be bothered / dont feel in the mood, I'll do it later. (me - ironing).

After some initial persuasion around - if you do it now, you will get it over with - how about saying - ok, but you know it needs doing, why not have some time out, but it has to be handed in ..(tomorrow?)... so lets agree at time you will do it. Then let her say when. It may feel less pressured.

She is bright, she usually does it ok, so why not cut a bit of slack. It may only be half and hour and she goes back to it.