MSE Pregnancy Club XII

BeenieCat

Sounds like he's doing something with the tv upstairs.... I wish his friend would hurry up, i wanted DS in the shower but i'm too stubborn to let him come in and see f&ckface with his bags packed. He's having fun out there!

harley1

Helen - I been getting itchy nipples too, I'm assuming it's cos they are expanding along with the rest of me. :eek:

Beenie - I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. Thankfully Ex and I split up 2 days before I found out about bubs, but he has shown his true colours since. You are far better off alone than with someone who will treat you so badly. When he leaves today, see if you can find a friend to help you with moving the stuff around, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES LIFT THAT TV YOURSELF!!! Don't offer him any money, help, emotional support or anything else that the little to55er doesn't deserve.
We are here to support you, so rant as much as you like. That's what we are here for.

Big (dodgy) hugs to you:grouphug:
Harley
xxxx

Fidget

Hiya Beenie,

Hope you are coping with all this ok. Your posts have really struck a chord with me as my 6 yr old DD's Dad left me as soon as he told his mum I was pregnant (on New Year's Eve). We had a nice flat together and he said all of a sudden that we "couldn't afford a baby" and he was "sending" me home to my mums (not teenagers either I was 29!)

He cleared everything out of the flat including the microwave, iron, tv etc all the things he wouldn't actually be needing back at his mum's! I had swept a few suspicions that he was seeing other people under the carpet in an unconcious denial tactic.

I was so desperate that I would not become a single mother (at the age of 30) I would have done anything to get him back. I moved back to my mum's and tried to arrange talks with him about our future. In another fit of denial I took him back (even though his asking was pretty half-hearted) and he moved in with me at my mums.

He acted like my pregnancy was a strain on his nerves even though he had been previously thrilled about it. We stayed together until the baby was nearly one then it dawned on me that for his 20 hour a week job he was actually gone for over 100 hours a week - God knows where - then I found texts on his phone from other girls. I should have let him go in the beginning then I would have had a fresh start on my own with the little one without going through all that turmoil of a long drawn out and inevitable break-up. I had really built-up a false image in my head that we were a "little family" and things would be fine.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that things will get better and you will get to the point where you will be glad you escaped being treated like that. How men can treat the mother of their children like this I'll never know! You don't sound as if you have let him destroy you although you must be having a terrible time of it. Everything will work out for you in the end please don't despair.

BeenieCat

Too late about the money, i already transferred it, i've been paid tax credits though but i won't get paid again til DD's go out on 1st July so need to not spend any of that!

tiamai_d

BeenieCat wrote: »

Too late about the money, i already transferred it, i've been paid tax credits though but i won't get paid again til DD's go out on 1st July so need to not spend any of that!

Transfer it back, you have a kid to feed. He can starve, or maybe ones his other women will put up with him for a while.

searching_me

im sat her thinking of revenge ideas... im not a nice person but beenie i got plenty of ideas if you want them x

BeenieCat

Fidget, i am starting to think it's me, because i went through this when pg with DS, my then bf was ecstatic about the baby, til i was about 5 months gone and he decided he preferred sleeping around and taking drugs (!), he used to ring me up and tell me how the girls he'd slept with were so slim and sexy blah blah. I was heartbroken but only 17 at the time and tbh i think i was stronger back then!

Anyway about 2 weeks after DS was born i stopped ringing him, stopped texting him and told him where to go and i haven't seen him since.

OH knows about this and everytime we argue he says it must be me because he hasn't had problems with any of his exes, and since i've had this happen more than once, aswell as being made homeless by my mother when 7 months pregnant etc - he says it's obviously me.

money_maker_3

beenie, I meant to say that too, dont move the TV on your own under any circumstances !!!

searching_me

beenie please dont blame yourself x

tiamai_d

http://www.makehimpay.net/get-revenge.html

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