why ???

**purpleprincess**

Thank you BHO. just feel so low that I feel like crying, but I'm at work :shhh: don't tell anybody as I'm meant to be working!! But again, no motivation there.

I dunno!! I'll get there. Everyone here is so supportive, it's great. So glad that I stumbled over this site. My virtual friends!!

Anniek1969

I get less motivated when I'm tired and the kids are fed up because the weather is bad and they can't go anywhere, and at the end of the month when everyone gets paid and they all seem to be going out and having fun and I need to keep reminding myself that it will all be worth it in the end when I'm debt free although that won't be for about another four years.

Oh god i'm depressing myself here. Still at least I know that I'm not going out every month and spending money on things I don't need and getting myself deeper into debt.

Lewby

The same as for many it's food and money that depress me! I start my dieting day with every good intention, get the post and it's credit card bills with reminders of how much I owe ... somehow this causes me to feel the need to eat something I shouldn't and then I feel fed up with the fact that I've blown my diet again today!!

I know it's a control thing. If I have got my DFW head on properly, my house is tidy and I've stuck to my diet I'm a happy, happy girl! (just eaten a Kit Kat Chunky - Oh Dear!!)

**purpleprincess**

Things like just finding out I owe nearly a thousand pounds more than I thought also doesn't help!!!

serena

Hi purpleprincess,

I am just now beginning to feel more cheerful and positive, because the weather is slowly improving and the daffodils are coming out!

I have to confess to buying a bunch of daffodils every week with the shopping because they cheer me up every time I look at them.

When I hit a bad day like yours, then the only way I can cope is to let it slide over me as far as I can, I do know that it will pass, so I try to ignore it and I also force myself to go outside for a walk or to do some gardening.Fresh air and exercise make me feel better.I do have a sort of count my blessings list as well!

How about borrowing a book on chinese cookery from the library and doing your own takeaways?

All the best,

Serena.

LookingAhead

I feel less motivated when I think I am doing well, saving money and scrimping etc.... then everything either goes wrong at once or loads of things come along like social events that you either *can't* get out of, or they are special so you don't *want* to get out of them....and you end up worse off than you started. I then go a bit bonkers and start buying loads of things at the supermarket as "treats" and totally blow the weekly budget as I feel like I 'can't win'.

I also find myself liable to spend dangerously when I am a bit hormonal (sorry guys...) and everywhere I look I see pictures of ridiculously gorgeous women or the blokes at work are constantly carping on about how gorgeous this famous woman is or that famous woman and going into detail as to exactly why she's so flaming gorgeous...and then I look at myself and think ".....right....good.....oh !!!!!!....I'm such a looooser!!! Boo hoo!"

I then find I want to spend billions of pounds on new clothes, shoes, perfume, colouring my hair, beauty treatments etc etc etc. Like that would *really* help the length of my legs, shape of my eyes, bust size, face, hips, ar*e blah blah...ad nauseum...!

I guess it would be cheaper & easier to wear blinkers and ear plugs at those times of the month! :rotfl: Bl**dy hormones!

Ali-OK

Mine's usually linked in with PMT...so I delibrately go to bed early, shrug shoulders and say oh well, tomorrow is another day.

As someone said earlier, spending on things you have to is a right pain, and holding back on the things you want to spend on is much the same. (Ooh it rhymes )

I get my own back by (sadly) working out my daily interest charge on one of my cc's and then checking the on-line balance each day! Then I pay what extra I can and see the daily interest drop. Feels like I'm beating the cc company...I know I'm not, but psychologically it's a winner for me.

southernscouser

I blame it on the male menopause! Well I am 25!

tee_pee_2

I have no motivation when I am tired, and hungry. I ahve no desire to start making cheap alternatives so I eat cereal or ring out for pizza and DD get a baby jar, which I ahte cos a) they are dear b) not as good as home cooked food.

I need to spend less time on here and more time in the kitchen!!

QueenB.

I seem to have the same triggers as most people here.

1. Bad weather...............i always feel more positive when the sun is out.
2. Kids asking for stuff...........not usually a problem but half term and easter is coming up :rolleyes:
3. Thinking i have sorted the money needed to pay what has to be payed and then find out something extra has turned up.
4.That time of month.....cycle of feel down......world looks black......cravings.......feel even more down
5. Thinking i have found a way to raise extra cash and then i hit a brick wall.

At times like these it can be hard to keep focused but i am slowly finding ways, i am now getting a kick out of finding cheap or free things either to give as pressies or to help keep the kids occupied. Finding ways to keep my hands busy, such as stitching etc so that i eat less, Keeping little motivation notes to myself all over the place.........a bit cheesy i know but keeps me thinking. But one of the best ways is to pop on here, so much to read and look at i soon find time passes and so does my mood.