Family member owes me money

beverleyhills

Put it down to experience. You were fortunate that your parents were able to help you financially when you needed it. You say that you find it difficult to communicate with your father. 'The loan ' you made to your father may be mismatched expectations on your part. Perhaps he thought it was 'pay back time'.

Money and property can divide up families and cause a lot of bitterness.

christabell

With all due respect, how your father deals with his money is none of your business. What YOU do with your money is YOUR business.

elaine373

I know this might sound odd but, is your dad english? coz my husband is just like this with money and i assumed it was a cultural thing.

mr218

i dont understand you. in the time you lent your father money, he has paid off the equivalent amount for you. i am sure in his mind he feels that he does not owe you any money. what about the rent free years at university, what about other things he has paid for when you were a student which enabled you to emerge debtfree from university.

you call your dad difficult but your attitude is staggering. you know they have financial problems and add that to the fact that they have more than repayed the money you borrowed for them, you have conveniently disregarded that and only have considered the loan.

why do you feel that your parents should provide for you while you want to be considered an adult and a separate financial entity while at the same time expecting handouts from them for your rent and overdraft. surely plain mathematics will show you that they have given you more over this period than you have given them
why is your fiancee so mad about it. did you explain it fully to her. or maybe she is prejudiced by your attitude to your father.

forget this stupid business, you are more than even and try to communicate with your father and be friendly with him. when he sees you as an adult and with a mature attitude he might be more inclined to confide and discuss his financial matters with you. good luck and be happy that you have generous parents and not be caught up in some non-existent unpaid loan.

Sydney_2

Let it go - it isn't set in stone that parents have to pay for their off spring forever. You have clearly had your fair share of their money so forget the loan. They owe you nothing. Be grateful and remember what you have had, and not what you haven't had.
You are extremely fortunate that your parents have given you help throughout University. It's very sad that you can't appreciate all their efforts and sacrifices.
I am so pleased that my sons do not think in the same way that you and your finance obviously do. They fully appreciate everything we have sacrificed to help put them though University. You just sound so ungrateful.