Wedding money - the best way to give

Violetta_2

Poppy9 wrote: »

You hit the nail on the head "feel obliged to give ".

If they don't need anything to set up home then they should not obligate their guests to give cash because they are invited to the wedding. I was raised to believe it is very bad manners to ask for gifts and certaintly to ask for cash.

Last wedding I went to was a remarriage so two homes into one. There was no gift list and no requests for money, all they wanted was people's company to celebrate their wedding.

I think the same applies to children asking for money at christmas instead of gifts. In 14 years my DD has never asked for money despite saying many years that there is nothing she wants. It's strange but I always manage to get her a gift that she does want.

Can I ask did no-one who attended this wedding give them a gift? Did you give them anything or respect their wishes.
2 of my friends have started to bug me as to what we want as a present & do we have a gift list. There is nothing we want or need. ( well a house with a garden would be nice:o) 1 has been quite persistent saying we HAVE to have a list. Why? we don't want anything,I'm honored that they want to share our day. I feel bad enough that people are going to be spending money on outfit's etc to come to our wedding never mind the ones who are travelling & will have to stay over in hotels etc.

Poppy9

up to £10

Violetta wrote: »

Can I ask did no-one who attended this wedding give them a gift? Did you give them anything or respect their wishes..

There were quite a few gifts brought to the reception which was attended mainly by friends. As most of us knew the couple well we made discreet enquiries with the SIL of the groom who is a font of all knowledge. She knew that after the wedding they were planning an extension on their home to accommodate all 6 of their children so we gave them a voucher for Ikea as we knew they would shop there to furnish said extension.

They didn't have a honeymoon, I assume because they were going to spend on building work. They wouldn't have dreamnt of asking guests to pay for a honeymoon.

shelovestobuystuff

over £200

A very close friend or sibling would get a £500 cheque.Thats enough for them to do something nice with.An aquantance would get £40-50,a relative who isn,t close £100.
Or gift equavalent if they had a list.

IWantToBeFree_2

Do you want to come to my wedding