Wedding money - the best way to give

Pee

A good friend has invited me to her wedding. Instead of presents, they are asking for money towards their honeymoon, which I think is a great idea - the most important part of a wedding IMO.

I wanted to do a poll to see how much people would give - hope that works, I'm not too good with new technology.

I also wondered how people would give it. I assumed a cheque but I was talking to another of the guests who is giving cash. What would you do?

whitewing

When we got married last year, we didn't have a present list & actually said no presents as people were having to travel a big distance. Virtually everyone ignored us!

We got some £10 vouchers. By fat the vast majority of people gave £20. Probably around 10 families gave between £30 and £50. The people who didn't know us so well gave more!

The payments were pretty evenly split between cash and cheques. In a way, I preferred cash as it seemed pretty mean for me to be paying in cheques while we were still on our weddingmoon, but we needed to so we didn't lose them.

kelda_shelton

£85 - £105

are you going as a single person or as a couple?

xJayJayx

£45 - £65

it depends how close the friend is.
I'd get a brand new £50 note and put it in a nice card and wrap it up.
(if they were quite close and i could afford to)

Pee

kelda_shelton wrote: »

are you going as a single person or as a couple?

Sorry, yes, i should have said. Going as a couple.

kelda_shelton

£85 - £105

As its a close friend - i assume you are going all day to thw wedding and have voted on that basis.

MsChazzer

£35 - £45

I think it's also about what you can afford, whilst someone might feel they 'should' give £50 in these circumstances, if you can't afford it, it should be less. I wouldn't want a friend of mine stretching themselves because they thought they 'should'. But that may not be an issue here so I'll vote accordingly!

Herbiecat

£10 - £25

I want to be friends with the person who said £85-£105 lol x

kelda_shelton

£85 - £105

Heee.. that was me... if it was a really close friend and there was 2 of us I would say 40-45 pp.

Normally for all day for two people I'd say about 70-80. I pretty much base it on what it would have cost them to feed me and give me drink plus a little more. So if a meal is £25pp and the drinks package £10pp

But if you cant afford it thats totally different and I would expect my frends to totally be aware and understand that. I'm not badly paid but I'm not extravagently paid either but if I had thar money available and hadn't spend a fortune in accommodation etc that would always be what I'd ideally give.

IWantToBeFree_2

I went to a friends evening reception last year and we gave them £20. We had just moved house and saving for our own wedding, couldn't afford to give them anymore.

If they had said it was specifically for their honeymoon, I wouldn't have given them cash, I would had got a voucher instead.

sparklylime

£45 - £65

I gave one of my friends £50 in foreign currency (to spend on the honeymoon) when I attended her wedding last year. I think that was about right based on what I could afford at the time and that she was a close friend. This year I attended a cousins wedding who I don't know very well or see often - I gave £30.